OK It seems that I was in the wrong here. The picture was sent to me by my wife via a text and I was so proud of my granddaughter that I had to announce to my friends that I was a great-grandpa.

That woman just had a baby! She’s right in all things and you should support her.

Five years ago it wouldn't have been an issue. These days it is best to get permission. Times have changed and it's not our generation anymore.

I understand you are a proud great grandpa but you should have asked first. Not sure of her motivation but some people are very private. I myself never posted my kids pictures on Facebook. Maybe you should apologize and ask her reasons why and let her know you won’t do it again without her permission. It is her child and she and her partner get to determine what is best for their child.

There are people who are VERY funny about posting their kid's pics online at all.
I understand why she was upset.

My own mother has a pic of me on her FB cover photo(without asking!). She has no idea how much it bothers me. ...
In my other world (dog community) people get skinned alive socially if they post other people's DOGS without permission, EVEN when it's a good thing! Sheesh some even go into orbit if just PART of a dog is posted! (because ppl can often recognize handler's clothes, shoes) LOL This is a REAL THING.
If it bothers your daughter respect her wishes.

I can understand your pride and good intentions to share the happy news. But many people have a justified negative view of face book. It was a little presumptuous of you to post that pic without asking permission. She was within her rights to demand a deletion. Perhaps she over reacted in the way she dealt with you. I hope it all works out in the family. Good luck...

This is a tough one. It's typical to not share pictures of a baby online until the baby's parents have done so. However, she should have made it clear when the picture was shared with you. I would also be a little upset about the disrespectful way she handled it.

If she had not posted pictures yet then you stole her thunder. And she's exhausted and hormonal. If you identified her in the picture then yes, you were in the wrong. These days of stolen identities, stalkers, and weirdos, you can't be too careful, and she might not have been ready to make the announcement yet. Apologize abjectly and then proceed with caution in the future.

I understand your surprise but my kids are the same way. they are afraid of posting pictures because of pedophiles and kidnapping.

You need to know why she was angry.

Asking her first could have prevented the whole thing ...

Right vs. Wrong. Would you rather be right, or be happy? Let her (and others) be right, and ask before posting. Unless there is a history of proud posting to fall back on.

Had she had a chance to post any yet? That might explain her reaction, even though I it sounds like she was rude about it.

Yes, she over-reacted, but she might have felt that the picture was unflattering (of her if not of the baby) or that she wasn't ready for anyone to see the baby just yet. Try to chalk her reaction up to stress and exhaustion, and now you know that in the future, you need to ask before posting. When a little time has passed and she has relaxed a little, ask her why she reacted as she did. That might provide you guidance for future photo sessions.

I would never post someone else's pictures without their permission. The same goes for mentioning them if I check in on FB.

Both. Nothing wrong with you being proud and excted. She probably hates how she looks, mussed hair whatever. You should have gotten approval first,

Oof that is a tricky one. With all the funk FB has gotten into of late I can see being careful with posting photos. Demanding may have been a bit over reaction. Make a note for future and let who was 'right' go.

I told my two granddaughters not to post my picture.

I read four issues at stake here: the legal rights of children and parents, the child's rights, the moral right of a parent to determine what is best for the child, and finally, the issue of your relationships, with your granddaughter today and with your great grandchild in the future.

I haven't read any of the other responses to your question, but i wholeheartedly agree with your grand-daughter. You did "violate her rights" and you need to own what you did, not rationalize your actions. But only if you care about your relationship with her.

If you respect her, and her right to manage her family, you should have checked. At least you took down the photo expeditiously.

You may not be aware, but many professionals are discouraging posting photos like you did for the security of the children and the parents. It is a day of predators and many use the internet to pick their targets.

[theguardian.com]

My opinion is that you did violate her rights, and her child's right to privacy and freedom.

So if you want to heal the rift in your relationship, i suggest you apologize, beg her forgiveness, and swear that you will not post any photos again without her permission. You now need to start rebuilding the trust between you, and this will begin the healing process, is you care.

Here are some additional articles about a child's legal right to privacy.

[paulbernal.wordpress.com]

[scholarship.law.ufl.edu]

I'm on your side. You did it out of pride and joy.

You should ask her if its ok to post it. She overly reacted unless she is hiding from someone like the baby's daddy or past boyfreinds. You just a proud granddaddy.

Sorry, Dave. She has the right to protect the privacy and identity of her daughter. Maybe she didn't handle it very well, but you did the right thing in taking the photo down. Don't let this become an issue with you two. Apologize and cherish the relationship you have with her.

I think it is important to ask. I only show pictures of my children and grandchildren to a fairly tight group of friends and I have checked with them that they don't mind. I don't worry too much about online privacy, myself - I am sure that we have very little control over what is known about us as soon as we enter the system - but I know some people like to feel they are in control of what is shown about them. It sounds as if she wanted to be the first to show the picture, which is understandable, too.

Her being the mother, I can totally understand that she wants to do the announcing. However, it is a bit strong to 'demand', she could have just let it slide.