My boyfriend of 2 years has suddenly broken up with me on the grounds that he has suddenly found god and says he can hear god and that we cannot stay together or make our relationship work because of our difference in religious views. I feel like it’s incredibly unfair for him to have done this.
Life is not fair. Life was here a long time before we came along with our ideas of fair and unfair. I am sorry for your loss, but I see no option for you but to move on with your life.
It seems unfair and it is unfair. It is not you, It is Him. I am sure you can take him at his word though. He will not try to make it work, He cannot stay together with you. He has salvation, You do not. That you had been well enough up to now does not count because you have to fulfill his concept of a "god" person. I think you may have ducked a bullet on this one. I am sure there are plenty of people out there religious and non that would not dream of behaving this way.
When I left my husband he had a breakdown and became a born again. It happens.
It is sudden, and might seem unfair, but do you want to be with somebody so fickle? Can you even truly know somebody who's views change so dramatically and suddenly.
It sounds like he might want you to convert, I would advise against that as it sounds like he as on a very dark path; claiming to be able to hear god is a sure sign that either: a) he's is suffering from severe mental illness, b) has a personality disorder, or c) is a liar.
You do not want to feed any of these things by agreeing to terms with him as you will only help him to hurt himself, or help him to hurt you further.
If you are in contact with his family then I would advise that you dispassionately tell them he has said he can hear god and that you are worried about his mental state, then I would honestly stop all contact with him. Do not try to bargain with him, and do not challenge him directly- this is a job for a mental health professional.
I am so sorry! No, it is tremendously irrational and unfair. The sudden change and depth of it sounds crazy, possibly even scary. It's bad enough that I would not even try to encourage you to salvage this, which is rare for me. I CAN sympathize with how hurtful and deluded this is, and get stomping mad with or for you. As much as this hurts, you have dodged a bullet. There are a LOT of sad stories when one does this and there is a marriage or kids involved. Religion of love? Yeah, right...
I change some as I age. I think that new god-people are so full of the god stuff that they go overboard. Becoming strongly opinionated is not really an attractive characteristic, and you are probably better off in the long run to go your separate ways.
If he claim to be hearing god, run, run for your life, something is wrong with his brain at 20 years old you don't need that in your life. It is very likely he has been lying to you all the time about his religious beliefs and just using you, sorry to the one to tell you this but, I have never known an atheist to go back to religion without having first suffering brain trauma.
Don't overlook the possibility of mania or psychosis. Does he have any mental illnesses or is he on any drugs, illicit or pharmaceutical?
I agree with those who say it's probably best to move on. Not only will you be unhappy in your immediate relationship with this guy, you'll also never be able to connect with anybody in the circle of people he runs with, and you'll find yourself on the outside looking in all of the time.
Find someone whose life path runs more in line with your own.
What is it that does not provide people w/ substantial "sense of being" by the time they reach... sexual maturity? "Life is a series of experiences and reflections by which we come to discover and fulfill our destiny", or some such. Early/childhood brainwashing... not just religious; is detrimental to individuals "coming to grips w/ the realization of their limitations". Santa, the Easter bun bun, Mohamed... are all fun, but really... fantasies. Is your ex so "weak minded", under-developed that he would turn to superstition? Maybe. I ask that (we) all do our parts to expose others (deluded) to consider rational thought.
Uckin Fay
You will be Fine. Now you can add god to had broken your heart. In the long term... You Make the Best of It. Love is a hard habit to break. My thoughts with you.
He’s probably doing you a service as you would always be playing second fiddle to Jesus.
Looks like you got a Get Out Of Free card there!
That is no reason not to look for someone like me i did believe once but after divorce 3 years ago i gave up i do everything i want now no won to tell me i am a sinner i like fast women and fast cars robert
Run and do not look back.
You have had a "lucky" break. You won't see it that way now, but give it a few months and you will.
And if your photo is anything to go by you are not going to have trouble finding another.
I'm a little late to the post but thought I would share. I actually broke up with my girlfriend in high school because she was Atheist and I was Christian. If I had to guess, your ex does not know what he believes yet and has relapsed to an ideology where he feels more comfortable.
My high school self threw away a quality Atheist girl, what I would do go on a date and not be asked if I go to church . . .
Say it was nice meeting you! <3 Keep your craziness