I got a vasectomy at 24 years old. I don't think there's anything selfish about it. People that say that kind of thing are pieces of crap. If you ask someone why they want kids, it's usually selfish too. Also, I think we need to find different words for varying degrees of selfishness. Selfish when you are looking out for yourself at the detriment of others is definitely a bad thing. Making a decision to not create a human being because you do not think it would be a good idea for whatever reason, seems absurd.

I have two kids and I love them both. When they were small the pleasure I received as I watch the look of amazement on their faces with each new experience EX: A Lori bird landing on a finger to consume an apple slice she was holding. Or when she jumped on my lap and started swiping her hand back and forth across my chest. I asked her what was she doing. Her reply was mom said we should butter you up. We want to go to magic mountain. Now they're grown and they only call when they want money. lol

I have one son who is 18...and I personally believe people should have one child now...I never got remarried so I never had the relationship I wanted to procreate with...I have friends that have 3 kids and I'm like are they insane...the energy children suck outta ya is mind blowing

I too never wanted children. I was always a part of the zero population growth movement. Zero population growth is if you absolutely have to have children have two at the most. I meet so many people that are critical of my decision to not become a parent. I've even lost my last relationship because I don't like kids, and am not family oriented. He felt thats all women were good for , and could not handle one who disliked them.So now I just tell people who hit me with "why don't you have kids?" I tell them i have nothing against goats. Ha! Ha! Get it? A kid is a baby goat.

I don't remember wanting to have kids when I got older I was a kid, as a teenager I said DEFINITELY NOT. Though, now? I still linger between yes and no. I don't want to bring a kid into this world especially if they turn out to be an asshole despite me trying my best, i've seen it happen with my mom's son.. he is a HORRIBLE person with a woman who if Satan was real.. would be his WIFE. He also has nothing to do with our mom. But I keep catching "Baby fever" as they put it. I like being able to be free and not worry about the responsibility of a little person's well being. It's also way TOO expensive. So, i've decided I will go into child care because I am good at taking care of kids, also it brings in a pay check and is what is needed in this area, and... I think it would be great birth control so to speak and remind me why I don't want kids whenever I get Baby Fever. So... maybe after 5 years of dealing with kids, i'll see if I really want kids. But if I did have kids, I'd feel it would be selfish of me. Because i'd be bringing them into this god awful world and my family history involves a lot of mental and physical health issues. Cancer, Heart disease, Bipolar and Schizophrenia to name a few. So, I think it'd would be best to not pass along my genes. If I really really wanted children though, with taking all of that into the equation and I had the money, I think I would adopt. Because I know what it's like to feel abandoned and have an empty spot in your heart and constantly trying to fill it. So I stay on birth control and wrap it up. If for some reason I somehow got pregnant by accident.... I would be the asshole that aborts the poor kid. I wouldn't want the kid to suffer with the mental or physical health issues. I know abortion is seen as murder, but it would be my choice and I would be the one who has to deal with the knowledge knowing that I killed something innocent.

I've been sitting here wondering how much I want to reveal....

I don't ever remember wanting kids when I was growing up. My sister, yes, me no. But while in college there was an unplanned pregnancy - we got married - 2 yrs later divorced. I struggled as a single parent for several years and often in those early years wondered what my life would have been like if I hadn't gotten pregnant. In my late 20's I was thinking maybe I wanted another child but by my early 30's that changed again. Now, I am a grandmother, and I couldn't ask for anything better. I see it as my reward for hanging in there and struggling as a single mom. I love and appreciate those kids more than anything. And I wouldn't have that, if I hadn't had my daughter, plus I'm a great grandmother (literally and figuratively)! On the other hand, I don't think I was as good a mom as someone who really wanted to have kids. I made selfish choices and would not win any mother of the year awards, but I did the best I knew how and that's all anyone can do.

18 year old me - No kids
67 year old me - ???
There's no easy answer and everyone needs to decide for themselves. And I don't think that it is selfish if you decide not to.

Gee Kreig. Go climb man... never pass up the opportunity to adventure till you settle down. Go have some fun. Can't say more than that...