Omigosh, @HippieChik58, you've lost two while dating? That's gotta be demoralizing. I agree with @Noellemay, you seem really cool, so maybe start dating them younger?

My kids gave me guidelines. They have to be close to my age than to my oldest daughter's age. I was 26, nearly 27 when I had her, and I will be 60 next week. So right now I can date as young as 47. Meh, I don't really like the younger guys, they usually come with youngsters at home and I don't have an interest in dealing with puberty once again. Or child support issues.

Oddly enough I’m from SLC as well.
And it was worse than you can know. But life goes on.

It was in 2014. My daughter was really more affected. We were in a he midst of a divorce.

I'm in the same boat (divorce not yet finalised) and I know exactly what you mean - I'm not sure I've finished picking up the pieces yet, but there's no harm in seeing what's on offer!

I agree totally. I have been single so long that I feel like a virgin again. I am nervous about it but want it sooo bad too

and when you meet in the street you could say. "May evolution favor your descendants".

@Rugglesby I am seriously considering uprooting from where I am and moving closer to a more urban area near my other atheist and agmostic friends.

@misstuffy We have pockets within some communities that seem more religious than others,
Ozzies were mostly Christian no matter where in the world they came from , with modern communication technology, the faith has become somewhat dilute. Country areas that have not had a great influx of new residents are still avid church goers, ethnic pockets are quite vocal. We can go weeks with religion being mentioned. Everywhere I go, Churches have been sold, converted into houses and restaurants. Muslims and Sikhs seem to continue building grand places of worship. We have a higher than average Sikh population in my region but they rarely mention religion and all I have met are nice people. Sadly they often get confused with Muslims and cop some abuse.

@Rugglesby I believe here in Iowa there was a sikh temple parishioners attacked by someone mistaking them for muslims, even if they were muslims this guy had no right to attack them. Where I live it is fundamentalist Baptists and Jehovahs Witnesses, in other words just shsoot me now!

I love animals and would love to have a small farm of them to play with all day. I am a spiritual person raised in the Bible Belt. I have no respect for dogmatic religions. I am a Spiritual person and I believe there is a GOD, but not in any belief system but my own. I am also a mystic of sorts, I have about 40 years of astrology, I am an empath (not ask for, just a gift), I am telepathic or psychic, however you may see it. I dislike organized religion. I find the people hypocritical, judgmental, and some downright spiteful.I do not go to a regular church. Everythime, I go outdoors and see GOD's perfection, I am in church. I am at a spiritual place I like. I would like to find some kindred spirits. I am also open to meeting for coffee or lunch, something like that. I have been single now for a very long time. It has occurred to me that I am getting older and there just maybe that special someone out there. My last boyfriend was 18 years ago. We were together 1 year out of the 4 we hung on. He was a Master Sergeant in the Army. I just seemed t become content on my own and before I knew it, 18 yrs flew past. SO I thought I could find some kindred spirits and perhaps that special someone. Also, i a not into the occult. I can read tarot. /none of this makes me an occultist. I do not believe in all kinds of gods. I do believe there are evil and satanic people running around. I do not believe in curses, but the mind is powerful. I always counsel some to be careful you just may get something, but it many only just be similar to what you wished for!

@BettyColeman I do not believe in a God or Gods. The Bible is laughable in my opinion. As far as farming livestock goes, this is a difficult way to make a living. I work an off farm job as well and it is definitely not an easy way to make a living.

@misstuffy I must be older than you. My mom/dad worked. I was the oldest of 4 children. I started babysitting and other chores at 7 years old. I got married when I was 18. I always worked except part of the time I carried my 2 daughters. That ended after 2o years. I am an industrial engineer. I am not rich, but I have some pension and Social Security. Enough that I don't get any government freebies which has never been a concern. When I was speaking of a little farm and some different animals, I would not have had it to make a living. I would play with and take cae of my animals and oour home everyday. My grandfather had a farm. I know that is hard work. They had milk cows to, so you don't walk away when you feel like it. I grew u[p visiting a couple weeks or a month here and there growing up. I use to ride the horse they had Trigger who was quite contary. I would take the guys ice tea when they were baling hay. Luckily I lost no ice tea. I usually had problems with Trigger on the way back home. What a horse! lol You have a much harder life. I was planning my fantasy.

@BettyColeman Having a hobby farm/acreage sounds up our alley. I work, building and engineering parts on Experimental Aircraft but it does not pay well and now with an allergy to the chemicals my days working on planes are numbered so my farm must make a profit.

not sure re the farm based, I am no longer, but I know well the restrictions having land and animals places on one, good luck.

@Rugglesby Thank you, I will need it, our high for the day will be 3 below zero

Wow, I never realized how tough it could be as a single mother. I know a few but I don't think they have the same challenges. Not to "solve" anything here, but it sounds like you're a great mother and may need to make some more time for you. It should be okay to do things for yourself that make life a little less lonely. Thanks for the thoughts... cheers!

never be desperate it's not a good way of choosing

Update 3 months later...no longer looking. I found him. Thanks, Zoosk...and academia. He is a math professor, my age, approximately, liberal like me, and NOT RELIGIOUS!!! ...in Louisiana, no less. Hey! Maybe there IS something to miracles, lol!

bullshit do what you feel

@LeighShelton I am the type of person who lets things come to me.

I agree but there is no too old bullshit

That is always a good sign that you are trying to be Honest!!!

I understand that! It is hard.

@GipsyOfNewSpain I have been single since 1985. I had maybe 3 more serious relationships. They last about 2-4 years. Then we would decide we made better friends. I have dated, but I never lived with anyone or they with me. I have been single so long, sometimes I really want a special male partner and another part freaks me out. The last guy I dated was a master sargeant in the army. We date about 4 years, but when at about 2 years he went to Afghanistan. I was really happy. We were just friends a 2 years in and quit our sex life about 1 year in. Woody drank an awful lot, smoked weed, and played kareoke everynight if he could. City Mouse. I like to go out, but I loved times at home to. He was seeing his old girlfriend before he went to Afghanistan. I did not care. Then I did not have to bother with him. Not a pleasant relationship. I did save his life. He had things stored at my place. He had a strok in the basement while getting stuff together. Are you really a gypsy? I always have a memory of a past life. Now, i know you think I am nuts. Anyway we toured Europe and we were in Spain. I like spain. The weather was nice and in the evenings they would build a fire and I would dance around the fire with my castinets. I told some friends this and I said I was Romany. I thought maybe Romania. I don't know. Since then I saw a couple documentaries and it startled me. They calle themselves Romany Gypsies? I honestly am not crazy, but a card reading, psychic, empath, etc

@BettyColeman I thanks him and everyone that ever served for his service and sacrifice. I love all europe I behaved as if the whole mediterranean was mine. I know you are not crazy... you been there before and I will dance to the sound of any woman that can castinets... we may be the only one here that know that feeling. And I thank you for bringing that feeling to me now.

18 years is a while, my last relationship ended 13 years ago. Freedom is a big issue, freedom to be yourself.