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Could you date someone who whole heartedly believed?

Would you want to be with someone who's beliefs countered yours? If so how would you handle situations of the other wanting to practice their religion around you?

DarthKannabus 4 Jan 1
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Date? Maybe for a while. Not much beyond that, even being as open minded as I consider myself to be.

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Long story to your question: Several years ago when I was still a Christian, I got to the point where I could live and work from anywhere. Neither my wife nor I liked the area we lived in, and I tried to convince her for a long time that we should move. We came up with all kinds of great reasons to do so, but ultimately, after "praying about it and reading her Bible," my wife said she didn't feel God calling us to move. This is when I was still a Christian, so I at least had some sympathy for her conclusion. After I gave up Christianity, we had another major decision to make, and she had to spend lots of time reading her Bible and praying for God's direction about it. That was the moment when I realized I could no longer be in a relationship with somebody who was a dedicated believer. (This was in addition to the conflicting ideas we now had about how to raise our children, what to teach them about God and the Bible, and many similar issues).

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I don't think I could. Being raised in a religious household really did it in for me. I feel like life is too short and I would rather share a common humanist/scientific outlook with a patner.

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It's really complicated, but ...I do.

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I've been in 2 relationships one being in high school and he was my first bf,I didn't think about religion. His father was an army chaplain and he molested his daughter. My bf at the time would tell me to read pages of the bible everyday,and so I couldn't do it anymore.

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Nope. Nope. Nope. Can't do it.

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Well I dated someone that believed but didn't practice. Yes it can be tough not feeling the same way about religion, god, and the church, but I there were many good qualities she had that could make up for where we didn't see eye to eye.

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I could, and have. But they weren't really practicing, per se, and they certainly didn't try to push anything on me.
If they liked to pray in certain situations or whatever, fast on certain days, I don't care. So long as you don't drag me into participating in anything religious, and aren't hardcore into it/their life is based on it like JaciBea said, and take a lot of the stupid things to heart, it's cool.

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No... I have drawn a conclusion about those who subscribe to magical thinking and buy in to religions bizarre explanations, they are insufficiently aware of correct causation. Meaning that instead of LOOKING for themselves, they accept "answers" that are on the level of superstition. This is a sign of heavy illogics in a persons thinking. Nope, not my circus not my monkeys.

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Nope.

Great answer Shredder, I am in agreement. I am new to this site but like being among like-minded people. Turns out that my friends are like-minded. Unlikely that I'll find my way to Missoula anytime soon but if you ever come to Coeur d'Alene I'd like to hear from you. Do you like to dance to the best local rock 'n roll cover bands ?

Absolutely nope?

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Nope.
Couldn't do it.
Potentially a spiritual person, but no one who was very devoted to their faith, so to speak.

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If i would, I would make it clear to them that i wasnt interested in practicing, whatever their religion was, and not shove each others beliefs down each others throats

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No way, there'd be far too much time & energy wasted on my part in either trying to ignore the other person's beliefs or trying to change their mind. I wouldn't even bother, to be honest

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