Very random. No matter what the subject I tend to either hyper focus on it or flit from on thing to another. If the people I am chatting with are complaining... I might be too. Or I might be pointing out a positive or total different way to look at it. I love to debate on things too. I am very animated when I talk and I can get rather goofy. But I am quite sure that my mood for the moment or the atmosphere reflect on my conversation. I get the feeling most people who know me are confused by me or just plain freaked out by me. I feel like they want to place me in a box or catagory but the don't have the right size or the right words to label it.

But when I was going through a really bad patch in my life.... I could not stop complaining. I felt like I was drowning in my issues. And a lot of so called friends just could not handle it. I have always been there for my friends and helped most out even when it did not benefit me and sometimes to the point of being harmful to me in some way. Since then I have pretty much become a hermit and only socialize randomly and superficially with most of my friends and family. There are only a very select few people I would even consider bending over backwards for these days and one being my daughter. As for the rest of the people I know, the amount I tend to interact with them varies greatly compared to my "all in" attitude I used to have in the past. Now I usually tend to do my socializing online. It is easier to avoid drama that way. I find it easier to leave a chat then walk away physically. I also find it easier to be supportive, helpful, reasonable, level headed, and neutral without being dragged in virtually as opposed to in person.

I think I expanded too much on your question.....

Complaining feels like wasted effort unless it's meant as feedback for someone or something.