Re reading the comments because I was bored, I realized that since the 70's I had only "hunted" in only one venue... Dance Floor Clubs, Bars with too loud music to talk. I refused seeking in work venues. Too close for comfort. Or being fixed. I liked the hunt. All this is New to me. I am going dancing tonight. Because that is what I do... what I know. Still works for me. I am were there is a 50 and over crowd of dancers large enough and that haven't see me for over 8 years at least so to the new in the city I am fresh meat until they try to introduce me to their friends and then come the I know you... To everyone, don't give up. Re-invent yourself or change your venue or expand your area of search but don't give up. And do not lower your standards. Your standards should move and slide lateral with your age.

lol I hear ya. Most are so set in their ways, there isn't even a glimmer of hope for them to maybe consider anything outside their comfort zone. Granted, we all our ways of doing things but who doesn't like a bit of adventure~~ It's like you hit a certain age and society thinks you need to change kind of clothes you like, the music you are into, dam near everything.

just get a vibrator and a dog but yes you are quite correct

Wow! Its hard for me to comprehend this. You are some beautiful ladies.

Tough post to respond to objectively... experiences vary soooo much, as do our ages.
I started dating again after divorce at age 49... (1970) was ok for few years, unfortunately... seemed “most” women wanted “security” (marriage) in short term. (shit, 47 years ago)
Honestly, to me (and I’m pleased) women have advanced “50/60 years in the last 10 years”... seriously, it’s great... unfortunately, men have advanced “ “6 to 12” months in the same time frame... without the structure of marriage or a “solid long term relationship”, men flounder.
Sorry men, it’s true (majority). Think about it... immaturity... PlayStation, gaming... add insecurity... damn, we’re no longer the prize... but we still think we are.
Now, some women may not have advanced at the same rate... still look for and find men that think they are the “big prize”.
You’re absolutely correct the “pool” is limited for “compatible mates”... not saying we should settle for less, but... we’ve been alarmed by extremism’s, maybe setting up barriers... ?
“... then of the 10 people in your region that are left... “ small pool, barriers.
For the first time in my life I live in a small suburban town of a small city (Tucson)... limits.
I don’t know how to finish... cept, not looking for nurse w a purse... and I don’t think “most men” on this site (and others) aren’t either...
I think today most women can be and should be very direct when meeting (interviewing) men on a first or second date about intentions, wants, needs, wishes...
My problem is I judge people by my own standards...

a wing person is key !

I haven't been able to get as far as "dating" yet. I've been trying to think of something humorous to say about it but I'm dumfounded. Maybe there are invisible horns growing out of my head that only women can see.

Well, I'm 52 and my marriage is ending and I've been on a regular dating web site which is kind of scary with all of the Christians on it. That basically is what led me here. Luckily I feel that the Twin Cities, hopefully, has enough progressive, single 50 year old women who won't all run away upon meeting me!

Hmm... I'm not looking for someone much younger in order to recapture my youth. I want a kid though.

I can't imagine being in the dating pool these days...at any age.

You need a B.o.b. Lol

Don't lose faith of what your charms could bring. I know is getting rough but it will get better. I am sure I am not alone but I decided years ago never to date again. There was nothing new I was going to find and all my sex bucket list been rewritten and redone to my satisfaction. There was no new tricks to learn or new arguments to bring up. Then I decided one day to give it a new "go" just because I could and someone that burned the candle so much by both ends never extinguish the fire. The fact and I hate to say this because I am quite of old fashion for some things but... I have never seen a viagra pill in my life. That fact brings a smile to my face that I never expected to have. I am the same old me of always. We are out there, maybe hidden on an unwanted relation, maybe bringing ourselves back to health, maybe like me looking without searching. I am not going to be the answer to everyone. But all I need is getting it Right once. Odds are on my favor... Just as in the favor of everyone of you Ladies. And yes I am twice retired, well experienced and plenty available but for the Right One... Not for everyone. I never been every answer to every woman so why be now? Just as You Ladies. Never, Ever Lower Your Standards!!! I never had. I never will and happy staying in my lane.

yes I agree with you.
I am a very small Slim person and I cannot find many people my size or smaller
because nowadays so many people are overweight. I look for people on this website
T-shirt size medium or less.

Sounds like you've got the statistics figured out. Really narrows things down doesn't it. What are we going to do!?

My wife's friend is over 50. She's recently divorced, attractive, articulate and well educated. She has a good job with benefits and is not looking for a "sugar daddy". She would agree with your comments! I get the gist of the complaints from my wife. So glad I'm not dating!

Aw you young people. Wait, (or don't wait), another 20 years or so. There are fewer people with more limitations and all the other stuff you mentioned too.

Okay, as a guy that is

Hon, try swinging!

Sorry , i don't mean to poke fun; but you mention religion as being important twice in your choice of a man . Isn't this an agnostic site sorry again it kinda tickled me . In regards to what you've said i totally agree, its a mine field trying to find a compatible person, once you've breached 50 :-/ . I got happy on my own , and i saw that anyone my age , would have gone through the same mill i have ; Be as messed up as i could be and have a ton of emotional baggage, i am not aware of . So for me it is to risky to want to do the dance of getting to know anyone again , as my heart is too old for breaking again << they mend better when your young . Good luck on your quest .

They are both out there.

The nightmare is real! While I remain hopeful, I've embraced half of your solution. #newtoy

Seems everyone assumes Republican = Religious Right. Not so. I buy all the Republican policies EXCEPT their religious based ones. THAT makes dating hard for me. I live in a county in Illinois that has almost no candidates for county/state offices among the democrats. Between the cornfields, the age, and the lack of religion, dating here is IMPOSSIBLE. I'm finding also that dating on this board isn't easy, either.

Just had my 13th year wedding anniversary (yesterday). Glad I'm not dating. I've heard the horror stories from people my age who got divorced for this or that trivial reason and are now wishing they had been more patient with their spouse...

Well I drink Lots of caffeine, so I'm ALLWAYS Vibrating, and it Does seems dating is a Nightmare

I'm mostly with ya Crimson. Add to that having a 13 year old at 54. SMH. I don't date. I am active, outgoing, involved, intelligent, loving, kind, generous, loyal, employed, fun, but over 50, with a wonderful kid, and carrying extra pounds. (Aka baggage in many eyes). Seems like young, slim, and childless trumps it all. Let em go! LOL.
I've got great friends and a Beautiful life!