“You need to put some clothes on,” I replied mildly. Through Fitness Singles, I had asked a man to send me a recent photo since his pictures were too old.
He sent a picture of himself in scanty briefs, standing and holding a guitar above a bulging crotch.
With online dating, leading with naked photos is the hallmark of a douchebag who just wants casual sex. Sending this photo before meeting showed poor judgment and impulsiveness.
“Damn, he’s hot!” I thought. He probably hoped for that reaction. "Down, girl!" my good sense argued. "Pump the brakes."
On the other hand....
At age 63, he is a registered nurse who works in critical care at a hospital. With a healthy lifestyle, he works out, rides a bicycle and has a large garden on one acre of property. He loves hiking, too. Divorced, he raised four daughters. These are good things, to quote Martha Stewart.
But that photo bothers me. Am I being too critical?
Your thoughts?
No you are not. Unless you are looking for just a plaything.
Unless you have requested Dick Pic, it should Not be sent, In MY Opinion Hun
I guess I am not shocked by anything anymore, but am confused by the signals. It has been a very long time since anybody accused me of a lack of confidence. I'm usually considered Type A. But I would never consider sending a nude picture of myself, or anybody else, over the internet. Call me old fashioned, but I also wouldn't want a nude picture of somebody I was considering dating. I kind of recall a line from a movie where this guy says a woman's body is a precious gift and should be unwrapped slowly and carefully. I'm that guy.
I actually get woman sending me naked pics. Some have ask how long is your dick, I reply, it not the size of the boat, it's the motions and rhythm of the ocean. She said, you will do.
Then I say, I'm taking a cold shower now. Generally sluts are a turn off.
Not right before you 2 have a relationship of some sorts and he knows that you even might be into that stuff.