I don't think I could do FWB, I need a more committed relationship. Not necessarily marriage or even moving in but a steady girlfriend.

I've had three FWB relationships.They generally have a short shelf life, but l did have one that lasted about 5 years off and on.

Ive observed in my experiance in relationships, committed or non, one person always cares more about the other and with FWB situations one will eventually want more which most of the time ends a friendship.

What does that even mean?

I've tried FWB and usually it goes south about the time the male friend starts trying to control me or chuck a massive sad about what I may or may not do with the rest of my time. My preference is for an emotionally fulfilling relationship with shared lives but if that isn't available FWB seems better than becoming a nun, though have only known a few men that had the hang of it the others all tried the male dominance BS, at that stage the ONS starts looking good.

There are times when I think I would prefer a FWB relationship to a full blown committed or long term thing. I still have a lot of baggage to dispose of from this recent divorce before I get involved again. However, I have a whole interesting set of trust issues that I didn't have when I was younger and more naive. For now I'm shelving any level of romance in my life until I am satisfied that I have moved on from the trauma of betrayal. Certainly don't want to taint some new chapter with old business.

I make that perfectly clear from the first date or conversation that I'll be a friend, take them to dinner sometimes and give them so many orgasms they can barely walk.

But I gotta be honest here. My plan may not be working out all that well.

If you do to and for women what I've just described they tend to fall in love with you no matter how many times you say,

we're just friends!

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Casual sex makes me feel sad.

Most women, including me, was a committed, loving relationship.