I didn't give a poll answer, because I don't think there is any set time, every couple is different and does what is best for them. Though I would think 6 months to 5 years especially is a bit long, wouldn't you then call that an open relationship?
G'day @Sacha - No.
I Don't think that she is meaning sex, I suspect that it hasn't occurred at the stage commitment to monogamy is being sought.
In 'Straylian vernacular of a few years ago following a well received advert for "the drink you have when you are not having a drink", though the expression is dying particularly now that a large multinational has bought the product and is no longer putting it on supermarket shelves, I suggest that anything over three days without commitment, sex or agreement to ongoing terms of "engagement" is a "Clayton's relationship" - the relationship when you're not having a relationship but playing games with yourself or the other person. See Dr Eric Berne's book "The Games that People Play".
Need another choice. Didn't fill out survey cause every relationship is different - can be committed in as little as 2 weeks.
I don't know what to choose in the poll. I am 'old fashioned' so to speak. I think if you are only 'dating', you can date as many people as you want to as long as everyone you date knows this and they are free to date others too.... but for me, that means no sex during dating. When you are 'in a relationship', it is exclusive and it is understood by both parties to be monogamous (I believe in monogamy and my partner would have to feel the same way)....for me 'dating' is the way to find the person you want be monogamous with
Seriously, the only rule is that there are no rules. Every couple has to figure that out for themselves.
Definitely an it depends answer. I agree every relationship is different.
And what do you mean by committed 1:1? Calling the other BF/GF or whatever label? Living together?
I think she means, when will you stop having sex with other people, and just be committed sexually to each other?
@Sacha Maybe, but I don't know how you could tell as it is ambiguous...
Committed to one another. Not seeing others just the one to one.
It really depends on the people, can't put a time limit on it.. they both will know when it's time to bump it up a notch.
I think it could be any time but I think quite quickly you know if you click.
Well, there's no set time, it depends on the couple. One can fall in love n a month, or it could take a year of getting to know each other.
For me the answer is simple if only because it is very unlikely that I will get to know someone in a variety of situations within a week, probably not even a month. Therefore, I am inclined to say that six months would be a minimum time before thinking about being "committed one to one." Of course, it is entirely possible that you could be surprised later on. Nothing is written in stone, except epitaphs and there are no hard and fast rules about it.
Don't know. Do know that when those idiosyncrasies you found so cute and adorable at the beginning start to irritate you worse than listening to to a trump speech...its time to join Agnostic.com !!!
I find this tough, but I'm not going to answer as I'll be lynched for being 'big headed', lol.
I think most would answer a week. Again, not sure of this.
@MrLizard Well, lol. I was on Match.com (not any more) and I spoke to quite a few women and ended up getting on really well with 4 at the same time. Now I have 4 women 2 of which have told me they love me, I've got them lined up for tomorrow, weekend, Mon and Weds. They are all extremely hot and get on well, perfectly compatible in the bedroom (game for anything) and I'd happily be with any one of them... I'm screwed. So basically I'm in a position to be in a relationship now with any of them, 2 been around 4 weeks and 1 6 weeks. I was just messing around with my free Match trial but I appear to have gotten myself into a pickle. How do I choose?! LOL
A year and-a-day. Time to measure release and acceptance, and commitment on "day one" of new possibilities.
I guess im a one person kind of person. As soon as it looks like it's going somewhere I drop everything else
Level of selfishness can not be measured by a timeframe.
What would make one selfish? A commitment?
@JustLuAnn not wanting to share you and you not needing to look somewhere else.
None of the above, but I had to vote to comment. I'm polyamorous, I'm committed to several. Not one to one.