You have to let it go. If you left him and found a guy who had the same belief system you did.. that guy would have some other glaring / deal breaker type of problem. We tend to always find fault with our partners especially when we aren't completely happy in our lives, but really that fault is within ourselves. I've never personally found a good solution to this problem. Every girl I've ever been with who had opposing religious views the issue just got swept under the rug. I think you're lucky he's "agnostic" but it sounds like he has the makings of a religious person.

Hey Talia - count your blessings that he isn't an active christian.

In fact, his um .. open mindedness probably makes him a more desirable person. There IS some good moral guides in the the New Testament "Love your enemies", "Do unto others .." , etc

YOU know it doesn't really matter, that its only your ego that finds it difficult to understand.

Its like snoring, hard to put up with some nights, but its really only a small thing overall.

No need to agree on this point. I read recently of an early Muslim sect that held the view many agnostics hold: wait to see when you die what the truth is and leave it at that. The Sunnis and the the Shiites killed them off quickly.
I don't think anyone has to agree with me so long as they don't try to kill me for my views.Since you both know where the other stands, live in peace and harmony with each other with that knowledge and wait till the end of your lives to see what the truth really is. Enjoy each other now.

Being from the UK I am unsure what is meant by the bible belt? enlighten me?

You could save time and date a fellow atheist.
How you doin'?

Why on earth don't you chill out and do simple things together , walks in the park etc. and have this as a no go area rather than a ping pong match - this scenario seems to me a recipe for meaningless discussion - which doesnt help your bonding process- Why would it matter? let him be and stop giving yourself a hard time - there must be films you can watch together. Leave this stuff in the closet if you love love him and quit the conversations

I’m an atheist as a matter of faith. Evidence and proof can’t answer the existence or non existence of a deity capable of creating a geological, DNA, and astronomical record that requires blind faith to believe. So, to that degree, I suppose I’m agnostic as a matter of reason, in that were irrefutable proof of the existence of God to be presented, I wouldn’t reject it out of faith.

That doesn’t mean that I would worship the lying rat bastard who has been deceiving us for so long while permitting horrors and atrocities that could easily have been prevented.

Ask him why it would have to be the Christian God. There have been thousands of God’s throughout history, why is the Christian God the God which he doesn’t believe in the one he thinks must have created the universe?

A "weak" atheistic (as opposed to "strong" ) is basically an agnostic. I consider myself both. I have 1) no belief in any god or gods, and 2) I see no evidence either way.

Well, when I read your story, I don't think he is an agnostic. A Christian with doubts for the most. I can't figure out why he calls himself an agnostic. An agnostic, doubts that there is a god and tries to find proof for either option. As long as there is no proof and he chooses anyway for the Christian arguments, he is a Christian, not agnostic.
If he claims that he's agnostic, than you should ask why he thinks he is.

I'm agnostic and my ex-husband is atheist and religious belief never was a point of contention, at least not beyond him teasing me and calling me a "wimpy atheist". The divorce was for other reasons

I do not understand in what sense this person is an agnostic. Agnosticism would be a claim about what you do not know, Not about what you do know.

I do not know how one can improve a relationship where subjects become problematic to discussion and essentially forbidden. Unless there was some compelling historical reason such as abuse, etc. to leave a subject off the list, I would not, could not remain involved with such a person.

If this is bothering you now, I'd avoid marriage and/or children with him at all costs. It isn't going to get any easier. Belief or non-belief isn't the issue really. It's honestly about his unwillingness to actually research and develop an opinion of his own.

I think you hit the nail on the head with your question who created God. The answer as we all know is man. If God was never created then why couldn't one imagine that its actually the universe that has always been.

Ag·nos·tic
[a??nästik]

NOUN
a person who believes that nothing is known or can be known of the existence or nature of God or of anything beyond material phenomena; a person who claims neither faith nor disbelief in God.

An agnostic represents a person whom is neither an atheist nor a theist. However, an agnostic may hold similar beliefs to either, but not entirely; therefore, an agnostic like myself can't relate to either faith or disbelief in God. An atheist and a theist pick a side and can only view life as a pendulum, whereas as an agnostic, I see a scale; this is the reason that I can't relate to either. Like there's only two colors visible: black and white.

If you both can step back and understand that the question is essentially unavailable and unknowable to either of you personally. Then you should both find humility enough to allow for the difference of opinion. If not it would not bode well for other more salient possible differences to be had in a relationship.

I would not call your bf agnostic. I'm agnostic. I do not believe that God exists, but I leave the door open to the minuscule possibility that I could be wrong. I also think that for some people religion is actually a good thing, whether it is true or not.

I think that a lot of you may have missed something fundamental here. Some people will argue about anything! I am reminded of a bit in a Woody Allen film where his parents are arguing "What do you mean, the Atlantic is a better ocean than the Pacific".
You say you live in the bible belt, so I suppose all his family, friends and work colleagues are Christian and if I know those guys they are on his case all the time. You are the only person he can discuss his non-belief with. I will bet you better than even money that when he talks to them, he uses your arguments against them.
You could try this if it gets too much. "There either is a god or there is not a god? If you pick one or the other you have a chance of being right or wrong. If you pick neither you have a 100% chance of being wrong. This is not Schrödinger's cat, now I am bored so lets have sex" (or any other activity you would rather the both of you were doing).

When I got married, 17 years ago, we were both devout Christians. 5 or so years ago I deconverted and am now an atheist, but my wife is still a Christian. We rarely talk about it since our relationship is based on so much more than that. If both parties can discuss religion respectfully without name calling and accusations the relationship can work. If, however, you two feel compelled to constantly debate, and anger is the result, it might just be best to be friends.

Your BF is not agnostic. An agnostic, almost by def, doesn't need to win the argument. Nor do you.

What's wrong with having these arguments? Many arguments are cover for other things going on in the relationship. Stay objective and keep emotions out of the arguments. It's just a discussion.

Just like if you date a theist... Be respectful and actually listen to each other. Simple

Your Significant Other is more like a Diest. It sounds like does believe in god (little "g" ), but he doesn't understand much else. I may be over simplifying this, but for me an agnostic can not prove god is, and an atheist can not prove god isn't.

Well, what I appreciate about agnostics sometimes even more than atheists that is they say I don't know a lot and we don't know everything. There's a starting point. It makes me wonder how he defines god.

1. You're not going to change his beliefs. You can point things out to him but once you've done that you need to let him make his own mind up about things.

2. Understand that a lot of people want to be "culturally Christian" so as to fit in, and the pressure to do that in a Bible Belt environment is particularly strong. Again, he's going to do and say things that are comfortable for him and you need to respect his comfort zone (and you have a right that he respect yours, too).

3. Don't let your disagreement about things become confrontational. You have a relationship with this man which has nothing to do with religion and that's a valuable thing to work towards. In other words, don't pick a fight with him about religion. That's what door-to-door missionaries are for.