yep, the patterns repeat until you learn and move on to the next set

Hell those patterns were all I knew as a kid growin' up with two legal drug abusers. An alky and a nicotine addict.
It's taken me an adult lifetime to unlearn them, and I still gotta work at it to not mindfuck myself when those old tapes start to play.

I kept marrying/having relationships with alcoholics/drug addicts. I broke the pattern 8 years ago.

No patterns here. None. Nope nope. <at this stage, March of the Clowns begins playing in the background as I start ducking rotten tomatoes>

Have a conversions with you self when you do error. Point out the error and commit to a solution in you head. Try to reflect on the way you felt when that happened to yourself. I have dealt with this myself. Have to remember that we all make mistakes, even the best of the best do error. Think of a skilled pilot even they occasionally mess up.

Is a man who had a secret affair with his wife's younger sister to be taken seriously? See following link.
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James Joyce referred to both Freud and Jung (some say aptly) as the Viennese Tweedledee and the Swiss Tweedledum.

You have now entered the "Discomfort Zone" (play spooky music).

I fix things, I solve problems, I give up so much time to help,
but I don't say the rights things, don't buy flowers, chocolates, rings and such,
therefore I don't love them.

I am what I am... too well set and comfortable with me as I am. I learned one big difference between Men and Women. "A woman marries a man thinking she can change the man once is married to more to her liking" "A man marries a woman thinking she is going to stay the same and not change at all after married" And that is why Divorce is such a needed tool.