I grew up with "artifical harmony" We just didn't talk about stuff. It was horrid, and it took years of therapy for me to even begin to undo the damage. But "conflict vs" implies that there is no middle ground. If by "conflict" you simply mean people can say what they think aind disagree, then I'm totally with that. But you can also respectfully discuss things without getting to the point of conflict, at least some of the time.

I'll take conflict over artificial harmony, any day. If anything is 'artificial', it's false. I'd rather deal with real conflict than be lulled into a false sense of harmony.

Unfortunately I tend to artificial harmony because I don't like conflict. I know it is better in the long run to get an issue out in the open. But fear of conflict tries to get in the way. This is not good for relationships and I think it is my greatest downfall in that area.

What is artificial harmony?

Depends on the other person. A casual acquaintance or distance relative probably rate artificial harmony, but people with whom you must cohabit or learn to trust might rate more honesty. Or not. Depending on how touchy they are.

we do live in artificially huge numbers close together so should live and let live like ants.

Although I think it depends on the issue, as adults we should communicate, especially when it comes to our partners. but personally I think if a relationship is all harmony then there is a underling issue

I prefer out in the open, always have.

Some things are better left unsaid. I don't like the term "artificial" harmony. If something really bothers you then get it out in the open but why provoke unnecessarily. Live and let live. Know what is important and let the other sh*t slide

I can’t say it any better than @MikeInBatonRouge did.

With people I expect to have no continued relationship, artificial harmony. Why sweat It?

With people in my life, always opt for honesty. Respectful assertiveness is generally going to prevent the buildup of resentments.