In the perfect world he would be right .men in general are unwilling or unable to understand something that they can't personally relate to. women blame themselves because that was a fact of life not that long ago. There was a time when it was almost impossible to prosecute a man for a violent rape unless the woman was a virgin who was raped by a complete stranger. that's where we're coming from, so it totally makes sense victims feel like they are scared, shamed, embarrassed and alone. Sexual harassment /abuse is the same way. If I was walking by myself through a park and a man exposed himself to me, I would call the police and the threat would be taken seriously. I've been on a couple of dates where that was exactly what happened, and I did nothing. It was the exact same thing, but because it was my choice to go out with him I felt there was no crime committed. Other than to call him a low-life piece of shit, report him to the dating site and leave immediately what are my other options? I'm sure that's the why the incidence of flashing has mysteriously disappeared. All the perverted lowlifes use dating sites as an Avenue for their perversions.