Funny, (actually sad for us) that Germany is beating us to the moral and decency claim.

Yay! It's going to be something people will have to learn to understand everywhere. Some people just don't fit in the very basic CIS mold. I look forward to a day when we have good pronouns for this. And tolerance.

A friend's daughter found themselves in a similar position with respect to registering a birth here in the UK. She'd transitioned to living full time in the role of a woman, but given that she was the one that the sperm came from, the only option on the birth certificate was 'father.'

I hope we're moving towards a much more flexible world. One where you can be listed in the parental role of your choice, regardless of whether you provided the sperm or the egg and the biological incubation. Surely all that matters is that a child has two parents on there. Some might argue that it might stigmatise the child in future, but it's not so long since being born out of wedlock (the literal meaning of 'bastard' ) was massively stigmatic. It's acceptable to the point of normality these days.

The interesting thing with Europe is how it generally becomes more homophobic and transphobic the further east you go. Certainly if same sex marriage/civil partnership/no recognition for same sex relationships is a guideline. So hats off to Germany for doing this, being kind of in the middle ground geographically.

Since the beginning of time 'fitting' in was the ideal, and the more victorian the attitude towards sex the more difficult it is for some one who is not fitting the mold. I have the belief what does it mater who you love, it's more important that you love. Then there is the legal reality and the desire for titles and part to mesh with ones identy and have the legal rights that cis-born, etc. have. Baby steps but they are steps, America at the moment is devolving and regressing. sad