One thing I've realized going through separation/divorce, the roller coaster of emotions is that there is no spoon.
Watch the Matrix. My dad is 75 years old and not where he should be for someone his age. Some find this out at an early age. It took me 46 years to discover this.
"I live for myself and answer to no one."
-Steve McQueen
"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all Wisdom"
-Aristotle
"Mastering others is Strength, Mastering yourself makes you fearless."
Lao Tzu
"With great power comes great responsibility."
-Voltaire
When you see things like in the Matrix, you know you are who you were meant to be.