It s not wierd at all. It s a bit like the law of attraction,you will on the whole attract the life you expect.It is positive feedback.

This is a negative way of looking at the same thing. If you want something in life you can envisage it and imagine it happening which is in itself a very powerful tool in actually achieving that goal. The reason being is that by doing this it can be enough to set things in motion to make it happen.
You may not spend all waking hours thinking about it but its there in the background and when an opportunity arises you must be ready to take it.
However if you spend all your effort and focus on one thing and obsess over it you will miss opportunities for other goals....as we seldom have just the one.

So obsessing about one thing will stop you achieving other goals. Being a more relaxed person overall, will actually help you get to where you want to be,but you must make your personal goals first. If you do not know what you seek you will never get there.

I gave up god in the 60's... jesus not showed up yet. So...

Examples Emerald...i can't think of anything.

Not sure that works. I'm single and my friends keep saying "Ahh, you're a great guy so just don't try too hard and a great girl will come along" ... and I know that doesn't work because I didn't try all through my 20s and 30s and didn't have a girlfriend then either LOL I should add that I haven't always been single and then it was only when I actually got out and asked girls out.