I am in an open marriage. In my search for someone to date a woman has approached me seeking to cheat on her husband. Her reasoning is that she is sexually bored. I have no intention of helping her cheat. Should I let her husband know before he gets hurt?
Noooope. Mind your business & stay out of it. Nobody needs that drama in their lives. The truth always comes out one way or another, so don't worry about him.
If they both are friends of yours they won't be after you rat her out. THAT said, I personally would love to be let in on the fact my spouse was cheating or looking to cheat. There's STD's out there and i don't like to see the innocent harmed any more than neccessary. JMO
Don't tell him. That's not your business. The rest is up to you.
I'd say remain quiet... unless the husband/partner specifically asks, then just be honest.
Statistically, over two thirds of people "cheat", but most maintain mostly happy relationships with their partners. Coming forward without having been asked will only insure the creation of problems in the relationship. If a person asks, then they know problems exist and are just trying to realize or get a handle on the extent of the problems and how bad things are.
I would want to know if there are any kids involved or anyone who would be hurt.
Otherwise I don't believe that people should belong to people. Do whatever you want as long as you don't hurt anyone.
That includes her husband who might be upset to find out that he is sexually boring.
At this point we all have to assume we are sexually boring. The sex robots are coming!!!
This is a time where you must exercise constraint, it has nothing to do with you,so mind your own business. There is always the possibility that the outcome could be disastrous and it will be on your shoulders. Given time, It could pass with no harm to anybody.
There are many ways to expose her anonymously.
I do not know her or her husband. I was just going to find him and email him all the messages and pictures she sent me. She left a digital trail that was easy enough to follow.
No. This is between him and his wife. Getting involved will probably make you feel better inside, but in the long run, it will destroy a marriage.
Bad idea to get involved in either way. Avoid her and say nothing. If not, you'll be inviting unneeded drama and possible disaster into your life.
NEVER get involved in another person's relationship or between people in an existing relationship!!! You will be the one who gets clobbered because it will play out one of two ways: 1) if she was really ready to be in any kind of relationship outside of her marriage, she would be honest with her husband and accept the consequences. Since she is not willing to do that, she is hedging her bet and keeping her husband in the dark, hoping he won't discover that she's cheating. Well, he will find out, because the spouse who is getting cheated on inevitably finds out, and when her marriage gets blown up in her face, she will use you as the scapegoat and you will wind up as collateral damage. And 2) once a cheater always a cheater. If she is willing to screw her husband over, she will do it to other people, including you. The very fact that she is willing to sneak around behind her husband's back shows a lack of integrity and honesty that should be a big red flag to you. Do NOT do ANYTHING to play marriage counselor and tell one spouse about the other, because it is you who will wind up being roadkill when she throws you under the bus.
I vote No. I appreciate taking the position of not enabling her deceit. But I think it unwise to insert yourself in someone else's problem. Just walk away is my advice.