I am a widow. I live in a very small, christian community. Whenever someone says that my husband “is in a better place” or “god moves in mysterious ways” I want to strangle them. How would you respond to them?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I have been widowed for 11 years. Such platitudes make ME want to strangle them! I think the kindest that I could manage, even now, might be "mmm -ok."
Those are rude, even unkind things to say to a widow, religious or not.
Zster
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Jan 31, 2018
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That is what I usually settle with. I am seriously considering a warning label or sign saying don’t tell me about god’s Plan. It causes violence
Was your husband christian or...?
bingst
Level 8
Jan 30, 2018
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He followed the Norse Gods.
@Kenderdragon Perhaps a response reflecting your husband's beliefs? I'm not familiar enough with it, but maybe something about Odin?
@bingst The people that said these things didn’t know his lack of faith for organization religions. Most did not know him at all.
I am very vocal about my lack of belief in the supernatural. They really don’t come at me like that. I live north of Houston in a relatively small town, lots of xtians in these parts. Sorry, I lost my son recently, didn’t mentioned that. I’m sorry for your loss.
NothinnXpreVails
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Jan 30, 2018
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I am sorry for your loss
Thank you @Kenderdragon
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