Wow, you touched a nerve. My mom was sweet and kind. The elevator went to the top, it just didn't necessarily go quickly. It took a while for her to get jokes, especially if they were slightly off color. My dad's brother was so in love with her that he fell in love with her sister too, and married her. And they're still happily married 70 years later. Anyway, my mom gave all for her family. 6 kids and my dad was a brickmason, and frequently unemployed. His job was seasonal and he did not tone down his opinions. My mom was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer in 1972, and passed on in November 1972. I was 14. As a woman you never get over losing your mama.