I am totally asking for a friend, who has been accused of not having emotional availability.
So there are lots of articles and advices about being emotionally available in dating situations. How does one know whether one hasn't met the right person to show that "emotional vulnerability," or whether one has too much (and unrealistic) expectations regarding the person worth while to show that "vulnerability"?
The "friend" in question was told that he needs to "put in the effort" to show interest, but why is effort needed if it was the right connection? If so, wouldn't that happen in due course without the "effort"? Or is he just full of shit, which I admit is probable.
What is the value of being "vulnerable" for the sake of being (or rather, appearing to be) "vulnerable"?
Asking this for purely academic interest.