My ex-husband called himself "Mr. Spontaneous." He complained I wasn't spontaneous enough because I like to plan and be prepared.
Yesterday a friend invited me to visit her property in Cle Elum, WA, 75 miles away. She is moving there with her boyfriend. They plan to convert the barn to living space.
"You didn't mention that we are spending the night," I said as we headed up Blewett Pass. "Do you want to go back home?" Kami asked.
Hmm... no luggage, toiletries or change of clothes.
"No," I replied. "I'll manage."
I brought hiking boots, a down sweater, down vest, raincoat, a warm hat and gloves. And a book to read. (I looked up the weather report before leaving.)
With no toothpaste in the RV, we brushed our teeth with Listerine mouthwash. Temperatures dropped to 17 degrees last night. Thank goodness the RV had heat! I wore all the warm clothes I brought.
This morning, as the sun melted frost, I ran around gathering branches of rose hips and snow berries to help Kami decorate the entrance to the barn.
She had bought pumpkins and gourds at a fruit stand along the way. Also brought metal decorations.
I felt proud of myself for being spontaneous. We had a marvelous time!
Both, though spontaneous should not be an excuse for poor planning.
"You're not spontaneous enough," Terry complained when I objected to his surprising me with a group of his tennis or artist buddies, expecting me to hop-to and feed them all dinner.
Suddenly I was scraping black gunk off the grill that Terry left behind. ("Why am I always wearing white when cleaning the grill?" I wondered.). Washing forks and knives that were dirty in the dishwasher. Running to the grocery store.
After this happened twice, I decided to spontaneously leave.
"Hi guys!" I said cheerfully when they showed up. "I was just leaving. Have fun, boys!
Off I went to a movie or the library.
"Let Terry deal with it," I thought, amused.
Good on you!
Thank you.
Some of my actions might seem spontaneous, but in reality, they were probably at least planned in my head.
Every time I make thought out plans they blow up spectacularly. I’ve since become the spokesperson for spontaneity. More than twice I’ve purchased a plane ticket packed it all into two bags and been gone for a year or more.
Nothing wrong with either I guess. I like to be some of both in every situation. You can plan and then be spontaneous after. There are some spontaneous people that expect others to follow suit or else they get mad though. They expect everyone to do what they want at the drop of a hat.
I am Mr. plan ahead. I am an introvert and get frazzled when things happen too fast and I forget to be prepared. For me nothing spoils an event as much as not being ready and knowing if it is something I even want to attend.
I prefer planning. I hate surprises, unless they're gifts or if my sons were away so long and came home to surprise me.
It changes with age and phase of life. When I was younger I was all about spontaneity. Now a divorced mom of teen boys in a million activities, planning is required for everything. I hope to get some of that spontaneous me back when they head to college
I look back on our history.
Me: Army Aviator, Computer Programmer, Project Manager, IT Director.
Her: CPA, MBA,
Guess what! We're VERY into "planning ahead".
I like to plan ahead,making list of things needed,human memory being what it is,items will be forgotten,sure, maybe you have enough money to buy another of the same,but not all stores carry what you need.
We love our checklists.
Being spontaneous can be great but a little planning does come in handy.
I am a planer. Not just now that older , but when I was younger too . Safety is important to me , and I will always plan ahead to ensure at least that in any adventure . Also I know my limits I think . No reason to be moody bcz my espresso not available , oh I ll bring it w me ?
I’m a planning freak. Plan vacations 5-12 months ahead. Start packing a month ahead. All excursions booked and tickets purchased. But I leave room for unplanned and spontaneous activities as well. Food is always planned ahead because I can’t just eat anything anywhere.
For events coming up, I plan my clothing ahead from dress to shoes to accessories. What time to leave. Which vehicle to take or what public transportation (schedule studied closely).
I don’t like spontaneous things. Don’t like surprises. With my anxiety and OCD, spontaneous is a no no.
I get that! Some people just have to plan to be safe, comfortable and happy!
@thinktwice I don’t like wasting time deciding or figuring things out last minute. I often travel alone and need to plan what works best for a lone female traveler.
@graceylou I also travel alone a lot...but I carry my passport in my purse and have been known to just buy a ticket and fly to places without luggage...I went to London for a weekend with nothing...not even my cell phone...
@thinktwice Eeek. I can never do that. I have a household with 56 pets and a needy human. Plus now I run a practically 24/7/365 business on my property. Just hopping on a plane and go somewhere would never happen for me. Not having a cell phone would kill me because I would need to know what’s happening at home (though I know you can get pay as you go phones abroad). I also don’t go too far now for vacations or conventions. If there’s an emergency at home I need to be able to get back home in a few hours.
@graceylou Of course! Spontaneity is somehow valued when each of us have different circumstances that would limit how much we could be "spontaneous"...I don't like that people are judged as less fun or whatever because they are not spontaneous...that is ridiculous...I have way different life circumstances and have set myself up so I can feel comfortable planning spontaneity! ha ha
@thinktwice Sometimes I wish I could be. But it's not something I need to have or to be. It's fine that other people are the way they are. I think my anxiety would be through the roof if I decide to be more spontaneous.
@graceylou People need to do what works for them and stop thinking of what others do and say...we all make it work and that is what counts...I could never take care of so many animals like you do...I would fall in love with them all and not be able to adopt them out...so yeah, just be your own awesome self!
@thinktwice Hahaha. These are MY pets and they are not up for adoption. From my tiniest baby tarantula to my 1000 lb horses. When I go on vacation I write up a thick manual for care for the petsitter.
@graceylou I would volunteer! oh my...you are my hero!
@thinktwice As soon as I leave my house to go away for a few days I miss my animals. I guess I kinda miss my human too a little bit.
@graceylou I miss my boys, too...animal and human! ha ha ha