In my line of work, I often will ask "Are you planning to raise a family?" and that will elicit some facts, such as "we both have kids from a previous marriage" or "yes, we hope to have kids someday" or "no, that's not on our plans, but what happens, happens."

This is a question that I would normally consider not any of my business, but I'm a wedding officiant, hired by the couple to write and perform a wedding ceremony script that is personal and fitting for the couple. Knowing their plans or history regarding children help me to craft the right wording.

sorry, not trying to be critical, but your question is rather vague. with whom do you wish to bring up this subject? people who want to have families should bring it up with their partners. no one should have to bring it up to them. it's not anyone else's business. if you're bringing up your own wish to have, or not have, a family, then the answer will be different depending on with whom you wish to bring up this subject, and what you want to say about it. everyone has different concerns. if you can be more specific, maybe i can answer.

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