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Are you good at small talk?

I've always had difficulty rubbing elbows just for the sake of it. Perhaps I just haven't been motivated... But the last two jobs I had, there was very little overlap of interests with my co workers. Religion. Sports. Coach bags... not my stuff. And, I will not watch Honey Boo Boo just to have a break room conversation. I'd rather than off my own leg.

I just liked to say good morning and get to doing my thing. Unless I see common ground, it feels forced and awkward. Umm... So how about that weather...

How do you do with small talk?

silvereyes 8 Feb 4
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No

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No.
I want to leave it there but it seems smug. Tried it a couple of times but it's like playing tennis with a wall unless it becomes an argument.

@silvereyes To be sure. S'more of an echo.
Hi
Hi
How you?
Good. How you?
Good.
Etc.
That's why I miss old timey pub games.

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I don't.

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I can when I want to, the trivial has its place and it puts people at ease with shared common ground.
I don't engage as much these days but I won't fob off someone else either.

Emile Level 5 Feb 5, 2018
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I think small talk is subjective, what people believe to be important, varies. Personally, I am quite easily amused, not really sure that’s a good thing, but if I know little on a subject that people want my opinion on, I only say what I know and point out when it’s purely speculation. I don’t watch honey boo boo, but I do know her family is horribly obease, so I would comment along those lines.

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I'm a mix of Dexter Morgan and Violet Evergarden when it comes to relationships

@silvereyes would you expect me to say otherwise?! #dontgetcaught

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Lol sometime, but sometime I can go on and on like the Energizer Bunny lmao!

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I am not. I learned that long ago.

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Some folks say i am all talk. Polite exchanges are like two dogs sniffing each other's butt. I like real talk. Get to know the folks I ride the bus with.

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We’re human. Some things are universal, talking recipes or favorite music/art or even destinations, it’s interesting to try to discern the nuances of people or even just observe. Heck, Briggs Myer results are even good small talk even if it’s kind of bunk. I’m also about as good at small talk as a potato.

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I prefer large talk. I get dressed in suit with an especially long dick length tie, spray my face orange, and slap on a Trump toupee, then tell everybody how cool I am until they run away.

jeffy Level 7 Feb 5, 2018
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I'm a people person and I can talk to Anyone. My wife is the opposite...poor baby.

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once we get past the weather I go silent

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If small talk was all politics and philosophy, I would love it. It's the fact that it's about small topics that annoys me. I understand everyone has their likes and dislikes, but many dislike talking about politics and philosophy and find it boring, so well fuck it, I find your sport/career/money-and-objects/stay-in-the-pocket type talk boring and hard to pay attention to. Sometimes it's interesting and cool, but there are more mind-bending and pressing topics to talk about out there, and we've been talking about recipes for cucumber salads for the last hour. Jesus!

I like your name

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If I have the energy I'm not bad at it. If it's someone I have serious problems with or the small talk subject is offensive then I find a way to exit.

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I am not sure that I get to judge that. The people I talk TO (or with) are in a better position to do so. However, I am highly comfortable with small talk and enjoy it. I do take the time to read people, though, and not force small talk when they want no part of it.

Zster Level 8 Feb 5, 2018
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I'm good at it and living in a small town with some lovely old dears I engage in it regularly. Don't always enjoy it per se but a lot of them are widowed and live alone, and it really isn't that much effort to chat for five minutes, good for both of us, acknowledging someone else as someone who is worth your time is one of the best things you can do even if the conversation itself is boring as bat shit.

Kimba Level 7 Feb 5, 2018
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I have no common interests with co-workers. I'm not good at small talk either.

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I don't. Small talk is insignificant and unnecessary
. I speak when I have something to say that is relevant to me, not just to hear myself speak. Also, I am somewhat reclusive and feel no need to mingle with people who I have nothing in common with.

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I'm awful at it.
Like you said @silvereyes it feels forced and awkward.

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I'm like you. Unless I'm interested in the person, it's work to make small-talk. I go through this with my co-workers, with whom I have virtually nothing in-common.

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Do you have a kindle? If not load the app on your phone. It's a good way to avoid break room conversation. In fact, this site is too. I'm in the break room right now.

JimG Level 8 Feb 5, 2018
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Small talk is shallow talk.

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Since I think I'm funny, I usually go there. And I'm curious, so if I want to partake, I just ask questions.

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One thing I love about Thailand..no silly "obvious" statements, so common in US culture, such as "Sure is hot today," or "Nice sunny day today."
These non-statements are meant to let people communicate politely without having to think of anything clever to say, or commit to a more lengthy conversation, just to show friendliness.

When I first came to Thailand, I had to fight that non-statement impulse because saying something like that only got blank, or inquiring stares. In general, people leave you alone unless you smile at them or otherwise indicate you want to talk.
Even very young children are taught not to stare at, or bother strangers.

Also, people typically don't talk on public transportation..even on their cellphones.
I quickly learned that when I tried to make friendly chit chat, everyone just stared at me, startled.
But since I prefer to read Kindle books during trips, I'm grateful for the peace and quiet.

Occasionally someone's-usually a woman close to my age- curiosity will be too much, and they will ask me what I'm doing there (wherever I happen to be), and if I respond in Thai, they usually ask what I do in Thailand.
But after I answer a few questions and exchange a few pleasantries, I am free to return to my book-nobody bothers me further.

But I can be a chatterbox if I meet someone exceptionally interesting, even overriding my "no non-statements" program, like when I saw a Thai teen near a remote beach village flying an amazing handmade kite that "sang" Thai music when the wind blew across cat gut hairs stretched across places on the kite frame.
I was all over him..did he make the kite? How long does it take? Do you sell them? How long have you..?
etc. etc. I was quite a pest.

hot enough for ya?

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