I married a woman with a rare illness. We had a few good years, and then she got sicker, and we had a few very challenging years, and then she died. I don't regret it though. I don't think even knowing the eventual outcome that it would have changed my decision. Knowing her was more than worth it.

Both of us thought her health was stabilized. If she knew in advance what would happen she might have had concerns about imposing that on me, but guess what ... I loved her and would take whatever years I could get.

Love and loss are two sides of the same coin. I remarried a decade ago, and my current wife and I are in reasonable health, but for example she could have a stroke tomorrow and a complete personality transplant to go with it, and I'd have to cope with it. Or it could happen to me and she'd have to deal. It's called life. Stuff happens when you live. It's also called commitment, constancy, and devotion. Those are part of the deal when you're in a committed relationship.

All of which is to say that if you're a kind person with good character and an appealing personality, the fact that you have a challenge that's already known rather than some unknown future challenges, should not be a deal breaker. The problem is that people are afraid, and afraid of other's fear. And that is a real obstacle. But my advice to you would be no different than for anyone else: be the sort of person people want to meet. Don't be looking for someone to make everything okay. Make it okay for yourself, learn how to make it okay for others, and you greatly increase your odds of finding lasting companionship.

Dear, a gentleman stopped dating me when he saw my tick eyeglasses for the first time. I imagine if he had see me now -30 years later and after laser surgery- he would love me. .
As sad as it may sound, people try to avoid getting in a relationship with a person who has a chronic disability.

Each of us have different experiences, with the resulting differing parameters of who we're attracted to, what we're comfortable with, and what we understand and can live with, regarding various disabilities.

And then there's circumstances. If a bond has already formed before a disability occurs - many can adjust to that over time. But then there are some that cannot, and it may cause a split.

Taking on a potential pairing with someone who has physical limits can be a big deal in some folks' minds - even for a date. Hell, it's difficult enough without any limits !

Years back I met someone online who was 3/4 paralyzed and confined to a wheelchair due to a diving accident. His arms worked, and he could get around in a well tricked out van. When I met him, honestly, he was so charming and frankly - hot (to me), that I could easily have learned to deal. But there was a sizable distance, and both of us were firmly planted. Killed it off before it got off the ground.

It seems the ideal meeting situation would be to meet people in person, while engaged in a mutually enjoyed activity, or destination trip. Good luck !

I have met married men in wheelchairs who have such a cheerful, outgoing personality, they are often surrounded by friends. Kids swing off their powerful arms.

What is CP?

Shared recreational experience are bonding for a couple. That's why I want a fit man who enjoys hiking.

Not just girls. As a gay man, I find men tend to shy away from me because i am legally blind.

I think a part oif it isn't just the disability itself, but also income potential also figures in as well. Most disabled persons had limited employment or career opportunities Between the disability and lack of income potential, let's face it, that doesn't exactly scream out "potential husband" or "husband material".

People have to deal with how society will perceive them if their spouse is disabled. As sad it it is, the reality is that people who have a disabled spouse are (generally) not seen as or rated as highly by others. Partly7 due to prejudice and partly because people simply don't know how to behave or feel comfortable around disabled persons and that extends somewhat to spouses of disabled persons.

That is just my own observations and experiences.

About the only thing you can do is recognize what you do and don't have control over and change your life to improve your chances as much as possible. I myself changed all the things I disliked about myself on the theory that if I like dmyself better, I'd be happier and that would attract more people. What happened is I got content and happ[y with who I am, and I no longer felt I needed another person in my life to be happy, because I already was happy.

That isn't to say that finding someone to share my life would not be enhancing my life, but I no longer fel that finding someone is a requirement to being happy because I am already there.