at least be open to the idea that you could meet someone

Dragoria - first, I'm sorry you are having to go through this. Losing a partner is very very hard.

When my fiance died, I was 45. I was convinced, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I would never ever ever date again. Because I didn't want to. Because I was convinced that nobody would ever be as good as him or love me the way he loved me. I still believe that, oddly.

But, nature and life has a way of thwarting our best intentions. It was two years before I even noticed anybody else in an "attraction" way, but it did happen.

Is it worth it? Yes, I think so. No relationship is perfect. They don't all last. But, if you like a regular companion and friendship and consistency and sex and affection and living life in partnership, it means one day being open to meeting people, opening your heart and your life.

My last relationship was three years and just ended in October. Like I said, they don't all last. And, sometimes I think I'd be okay with never coupling up again. But, I am all too aware that life happens, biology is strong, and it may eventually happen. And, that's okay.

Are you thinking you are on a timetable and/or do you have a reason to rush on meeting somebody or coupling up?

Take care.

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