No, I have no desire to believe in an "afterlife".
When you're dead, you're dead.
People need to learn to deal with the inevitable.
I've got a cousin who is killing herself with grief over her father's death, EIGHT fucking years ago!
I loved my uncle with all my heart, but his death was the end of his suffering.
Which, for me, meant more than any loss any of us felt.
It sickens me whenever I hear about anyone talking about "heaven", and seeing
their loved ones again.

I believe... "belief" vs scientific proof... that we continue on after "death". Just no Magic Beings involved.

no, i don't.

side question first: i don't know when life ends because i'm not a doctor or a scientist, but i know it does end, because (among other sources) i have lost loved ones. i am sorry about your mother.

back to main question: the idea of an afterlife is horrific to me. let's imagine you're in heaven and you're with everyone you love. what if they don't love each other? then this is only heaven for you and not for them. okay, so then they get to choose with whom they hang out. then it's not heaven for you.

i wouldn't want to go, permanently, anywhere where i could not choose the menu and the music. again, how selfish, heaven for me, not so nice for everyone else, although my taste in cuisine and music are, of course, exquisite.

nope. i do not wish i believed in an afterlife. that would scare me to death.

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The only reason to live is to make memories. (from Downton Abbey-netflix)

I'm going through that feeling. One thing that is helping is that the person I lost will live on in our memories and so long as we keep passing her name and memory next generations she will love in their minds. My thoughts are of my family member alive and that's where she will live on for me. I do feel the emptiness of that was it, but that helps. So sorry for your loss.

A myriad of bubbles were floating on the surface of a stream.
"What are you?" I cried to them as they passed.
"I am a bubble, of course!", nearly a myriad of bubbles replied, and there was surprise and indignation in their voices.
But here and there a lone bubble replied "We are this stream", and there was neither surprise nor indignation in their voices, merely a quiet certitude.

Wei wu wei

Stay open to your most sensitive feelings and dreams for your mom.....maybe you might dream of your mom beating heart when you were a fetus ?....death is a reduction of body temperature to room temperature and certainly is not an on off switch....cherish your mother and her values she taught you...know that grief and mourning takes time and gives us resolve to seek cures and prevent deadly trauma....your loyalty to her is inspiring to me....all Atheists should be proud of you she surely was proud of her child grown tall

I don't know when death is aside from a scientific explanation. Then brain death; but that has had failures in that some people's brains have restarted (very very rare, like lottery rare). I could buy into some Asian ideas of a continuation of a life force. But it would not hold memory or such. That idea would come closest to science: Newtonian laws and the structure of everything being from stardust.

No. The afterlife notion is just one more layer of BS from the woo market.

no. if i can't control the menu and the music i don't want to be there.

i am sorry about your mom. that is rough, and 40 is too young.

i am not a doctor; i do not know when life ends. i have to take doctors' word for it that it ends with brain death.

i see my mom and dad, both dead, in dreams. it isn't the same as being able to call them but i do see them quite often.

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