As I have been involved in the "wonderful" world of on-line dating, it seems to me that men don't realize how much of this good-ol' patriarchy is ruining our dating lives.
Because of the dickish attitudes that many men were force-fed from when they were young, they act horribly and disrespectfully to women in the dating apps. As a result, women become very cautious and skeptical (a totally logical response), and will be far more reluctant to make the connection.
I guess there could be more hormonal explanation for men's overly aggressive attitudes, rather than sociological.
But if this idea of "woman as sexual possession" were to diminish, I think more women would be willing to meet with more men more often. Think about how much easier that would make the on-line dating!
This on-line dating has been an interesting sociological experiment, which I am happy to have ended. At least for now. Knock on wood.
You are entirely correct. When the toxic behaviour is pointed out, most guys get offended and double down on their obnoxious behaviours as well. Then come on here crying about how they can't get dates or keep getting dumped for "no reason".