THere are some people that may have zero sex drive and get along just fine not doing anything in the bedroom. I look at my parents who have been married 64 years, I am sure early on they had a great sex life but there were probably plenty of times through those years they just chose to stick together out of committment

There are plenty of people that are asexual from the beginning. Sex may be important to you, but it isn't to everyone.

Relationship without sex called a deep friendship?

I’m asexual with a high libido. My gf is asexual with low/no libido. I’m a queer man, she’s a femme-preferring queer person. Come May 1st, we’ll have been dating for 3yrs. While we are an open relationship, neither of us have found additional partners we’d like to see. Only once have we discussed having sex, and that was purely based on the fact that my testosterone injections had raised my already high libido. A relationship can be perfectly healthy and happy without sex. It just takes communication, which is easily one of the largest foundations for a happy and healthy, long lasting relationship.

Well... in general I believe that the two people should be compatible in every sense... not just in bedroom for the relationship to work out.

All too true. That's why you need to hold on to the good ones as long as you can.

Your still young...sex last a matter of mins (sometimes longer), friendship and lovingness, last a very long time...sometimes a lifetime!

To the sapiosexual, you've reversed the process.

An emotional connection combined with a physical one is best but if the emotional connection is strong enough and deep enough that can be enough.

One of 2 things will kill most relationships - sex or money. If the emotional/ mental bond is strong a relation can weather the storm and be a greater whole with love prevailing.

I enjoy platonic relationships, why sex is a necessity to be in a relationship I don't see. Perhaps low libido?

I disagree with the "doomed" assessment.

I have known of long lasting couple who are together, who just have sex outside the relationship and are honest about it with each other. Honesty just outweighs monogamy for some people.

I fall in the catagory that sexual compatibility is essential. I've been in sexless relationships, and discovered that the lack of sex was just a symptom of deeper issues. The cumulative effect being the end of the relationship. My last relationship was great all the way around, since it was so incredible in so many other ways, the sex was phenomenal. Sadly, it ended for really stupid reasons. Having experienced it, I'll never settle for anything less.

Oh but when it's there!

Agreed. This is why I have been single most of my adult life.

Hospitable woman. lol.

Your right. sex is important to me but it is also just one part of a healthy relationship.

Mature adults can always find a way.

Just maybe because I knew of couples over 30 years married were sex was never a factor. It was convenience... they knew each other and tolerated each other with the freedom to whatever. They couldn't see themselves separated from each other but no sparks in the bed. There are all kinds of humans and what may be a priority one for one... is not a top ten for another. To me sparks in the bed is number one need. But I can say that despite what me and my ex mrs had in the bed... when I made the decision to grant her the divorce she wanted... I never slept with her again. The switch was off and we were sexually matched from the very beginning of the relationship but once the switch is off... it is off. And granted by then there was not a healthy relationship to talk about or worth salvage.

And if you do find that perfect situation, and then God gets involved, all is lost. Been there, done that.

Ideally there is sexual compatibility, hopefully there is more than that as well. I still go on trips with female friends who have totally lost their libido, or are no longer physical capable.
More like friends than lovers of course yet it is good to have company, even to a point of appearing like a couple sharing a room and such.

This is true. The last girl I was with hated sex. Didn't like to cuddle either. I really tried to stay positive throughout and give her what she needed in other areas of our lives but... it poisoned the whole thing. I broke it off after a year.

But suppose you get with a lady you thought was an ideal lady.; then you find out she wants to bang after bang after bang. Until you have to say "baby I have to work in the morning. " How and when should you be able to tell if she is just in it for the bed. I know that's not answering your question. Excuse me. However, I think it contrast it

Well now, that's dumb.