When one door closes another opens

And he told me in still his valentine ... Like. Why would someone say that endless they meant to hurt you.

Unfortunately that happens a lot in life. I have been there and 1 love was lost found and then lost again not because of another but because of alcohol. Alcohol can turn a Dr. Jekyll into a mr (or Ms.) Hyde.

It has also happened that a lover became a best friend. Sometimes we can create a relationship that has gone too far and needs to revert back to the true setting. This woman lasted all of 2 weeks as a lover but we have been best friends for 20 years.

I think you show why it is so important to get to know someone first and take baby steps to a romantic relationship. Unfortunately, one has to hit the wall before one learns.

I really dislike being lied to and it is the deal killer for me in ANY relationship or association. You much better stringing words together I am and I thank you for the thoughtful prose.

Thanks for your beautiful and poignant share. It is the inner pain that is hardest to soothe.

That was extremely well expressed. I doubt that anyone who hasn't gone through that can completely grasp what you have expressed there, but as someone who is going through something similar right now, I can tell you that every nuance of the pain and the betrayal that you expressed comes through loud and clear. In my case certain aspects of it are extremely poignant. I can't even bring myself to get angry with her anymore because I've come to realize that she doesn't even have the capacity to truly love, or truly give deeply of herself. That is the very thing that I've aspired to my whole life. Just to be able to have that person that wants nothing more than to be with you. I'm sure that it's a wonderful feeling, but it's one that some are just unable to give because of the demons in their closet that won't allow them to love that completely.

Welcome to life on planet earth. I wish you well.

I've been single almost 2 years. Time heals wounds.

Yeah, tough break kid. Let's move on.

I'm not going to tell you it's easy, but the pain subsides. It's been almost two decades since my ex and I separated, but for a few years now all I've felt is regret that I was stupid enough to stay as long as I did.
On the other hand, I have two amazing children; so it wasn't a total waste of time.

None of it is ever easy. The passage of time helps. There is no one size fits all answer. You have my sympathy.

Exquisite pain is what I call it. I have lived it, and still have an ember or two from it in me.

Tragic and beautiful. Thank you for sharing it.

Sometimes the hardest lessons teach us the most.

My heart aches for you!

Very well written, excellent prose and wonderful communication of your feelings... and I know of what you speak. At least, from the perspective of my wife, who I found because her husband treated her as you have described above. Until she had her love for him turned to anger. I was lucky to have her find me. In being faithful to her until the end, I hope that I helped her to recover from that anger and realize that it doesn't have to be that way. Our relationship wasn't flawless, but I am happy I was there to hold her hair when times were really bad, and that three of the last six words we each spoke to the other were "I love you."

It can get better. You just have to find that someone.

Crossing over to the adult world is tough. You look to be doing it earlier than many of your generation. Good for you.

Yup

That's tough. if you can't move past it, just move out, or ask him to move out.

Cheaters always lie and cheat again, no matter what they promise, so any attempt to prolong the relationship is making excuses and delaying in the inevitable.

Like I keep saying, it's men who usually fall in love and become besotted because that keeps them faithful to one woman long enough to raise his progeny, but a woman with male-like loyalty traits is putting herself in danger if she acts like a typical male, staying in denial, taking cheating lovers back, finding excuses to stay together.

Besides, most men don't respect women who are needy and cling to them, preferring more emotionally independent women who don't need them. Most femme women don't take any bad behavior from men, tossing their stuff onto the lawn and changing the locks at the first sign of disrespect.