Lack of basic info for me, I try not no look at photos, just a "me' thing.

I like to know who I'm talking too mostly

@Crimson67 @geeky1965 Information worth remembering. Many are asexual so why not advertise the fact and not waste other people's time and hopes. Have you read Dr Eric Berne's book "The Games that People Play''. His companion book is "What do you say after hello?" After reading about 360 pages I suggested that "Do you want to come home with me and try to make mutually satisfying love?" Is the adult appropriate response.

@Crimson67 I think companionship would make me read more of their profile! When they list sex, it's a red flag that it's all they are looking for and want. And if someone said " hello, Do you want to come home with me and try to make mutually satisfying love." my reply would be "bye". I want to learn about the person first, and would hope they wanted to learn about me! Sorry Frayedbear, good luck in your quest!

I agree with @geeky1965 and @crimson67 - sex, cuddles, and kissing being specifically mentioned in a profile would be a turn-off to me.

I guess to be fair though, for some people, those things are very high on their list of priorities, or they may be coming out of a sexless relationship so they believe they have to state up front that it's important.

I understand and empathize; and I would still pass that person by.

@FrayedBear hmmm, I wonder why people who are asexual are on a dating site, I have met a few and even though I meet many nice women, not all are compatible, and things go no further, or some become friends only, but when sex is a no go for them, yes, I would like to know and most likely not contact.

@Rugglesby this is a dating site, Not a sex site, and I understand it may be important to you, and I appreciate that. To me I can date and not have sex, at least not right away. I don't want to put the wrong impression out there, for a woman, we love with our hearts, and when we do, we give ourselves completely. I think their are people out there that might be looking for sex, I'm looking for companionship, but if it leads to more, that's great! But by no means is that one of the more important things I'm looking for in a relationship.

@geeky1965 Your assumption and projection. I suggest that you are simply like the hypocritical Queen Victoria creating the impression of strict morality whilst not enjoying unsatisfied pruriency and other's such as @Rugglesby 's and my honesty. 8)

@FrayedBear your comment about my hypocrisy is wrong, and shame on you. This is a new era, and I don't want anyone to get the wrong impression of what I want. What I want is companionship, sex is an after thought. Maybe not you, I don't claim to know you even though you claim to know me.There are men who would take advantage of that listing. I'm sure you've never been close to date raped because someone took you to dinner and a movie, being presumptuous thinking that he deserves something from his" investment". So, I am careful not to give anyone the wrong impression of what I want.

@SACatWalker It is, especially in this day and time, hard for both sexes, I hope we can get some of this straightened out in the future.I hope you find what and who you are looking for. I have been with very considerate men, and men who have a sense of entitlement from buying me a dinner. It sounds like you are one of the considerate ones. I'm just careful, maybe too careful. Companionship is what I'm mostly interested in, if it leads to more, that's even better!

@geeky1965 Close to being date raped in the restaurant talking about imaginary obligations. ... no. Sexually molested by female nurses at the age of seven ... yes. But I did know a woman who thought it was her responsibility to thank men who bought her dinner by opening her legs for them. She obviously had her idea about #MagicPudding.

@FrayedBear I'm very sorry for your abuse! It's never an easy thing to live with and different people have different ways of dealing with it.

@geeky1965 I did forget this is also a dating site, I tend to see it more as a discussion forum. My comment re asexual women and not contacting them is true though for me. I have many many female friends, who are purely friends so if looking to date someone I am looking for more at some point. I have a friend who finally after 8 years of chasing me, then pushing me away admitted she was asexual. Yet she still wants a "relationship" whereas I can only consider we have a friendship. She doesn't like me having female friends even just as friends. I am really feeling to old for all the confusion.

@Rugglesby I've enjoyed the forum much more then the dating, even though I've gotten a few dates. I really didn't join for dating at all. I joined because I'm an atheist and wanted to meet other atheists. And for the most part, I've found this site to be much more intellectual and thoughtful than most sites. Most people aren't near as judgemental as say, facebook. I'm enjoying it very much.

Lol! You make me want to date you!

Ah "Grasshopper before jumping always check feet are in place and want to undertake proposed action".

I agree with lots of this. I don't mind occasional sports watching. And going to professional games can be fun -- I've done it twice I think.

Yup. Separated is not enough. Get divorced, take time to heal, then we can talk.

Yeah, I have a thing for uniforms too. With humans in them. Not just the clothing.

I agree and I agree.

Insecure OCPD ?

@FrayedBear Explain what Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder has to do with having preferences?

@Gert It is my preference not to have anything to do with insecure OCPD people. Are you denying me that personal choice @Gert by questioning its validity as a choice?
OCPD is a serious illness. I also choose not to go out with people covered in herpes virus, syphilis or chickenpox sores. Do you deny me that choice also?

@Akfishlady I'm sure you've received this one: "Hi! How are you?"

Which birds require their offspring to be close once they have flown the nest?

@FrayedBear LOL! I don't require it, but I miss being around her. I was always more like a fun uncle than a mom..teaching the kids to climb trees, skip rocks, ride horses bareback without bridles, play duet jams on the piano, etc. After I moved to Thailand, I began having dreams as though I was in her mind, missing me being around. I messaged her and she admitted it, but we've always been esp connected, as well as I and my mom, etc.