I can totally understand your dilemma. I'm having issues finding someone near to me as well. A naughty nerdy girl would be my dream girl! lol

It sounds like you're doing everything you can. You're out there. My go to advice is okCupid. I met my husband there.

Only other thought is nearby college events? Lecture series or activities open to the public?
I'm a very academic nerd myself so that's what I think of.

Yikes. Dunno.
Maybe find out where nerdy girls hang out online and go there?

Here are some links I googled just now:

Top Ten Ways To Meet Nerdy Girls [nerdbastards.com]

a nerdy girl dating site [gk2gk.com]

meet ups to meet nerdy girls [meetup.com]

I'm right here!!

There is such a thing as trying too hard...meaning folks can read desperation in a person. Not saying that you are but if you are, if you are trying really hard, it wouldn't be hard for a potential mate to pick up on it. And desperation is a big turn off/red flag kinda thing.

My advise, relax a bit, find places that you like to hang out, online and in person, and be open minded about those around you. See them as people and friends and allow space for all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones. This helps combat the desperation and helps others to see you as someone worth hanging out with (like the old adage, when it rains, it pours, but in a good way).

Sounds like you either have to do without or lower your standards. Or some would say, be less picky.

I'm fairly nerdy and introverted, married to a smart, introverted but not nerdy woman. We complement each other's strengths / weaknesses. My prior / late wife was a systems analyst / senior developer but also not particularly nerdy.

Also, you could probably become a little bit less nerdy. I still enjoy Star Trek and watch Star Wars with my step son but it's not a lifestyle and I wouldn't be caught dead at a ComicCon. At 30, maybe you can mature out of some of that. Being nerdy isn't some kind of sacred trust. It's permitted to modify it. And doing so doesn't mean you're filled with self-loathing, or that you're doing things you can't stand. I have found non-nerdy activities to not be beneath me. Maybe some nerds have too much invested in BEING a nerd. I don't see nerdiness as an end unto itself.

I met my current wife on a now-defunct general discussion site for people over 40 and we were attracted to each other's writing style. My previous one I met using a pre-Internet by-mail dating service (yes, I'm that old).

via your nerdy friends? We had this discussion this afternoon here. Apart from myself the oldest was 33 and youngest 24, all nerds. Nerds find each other cool, online doesn't seem to work, they all found each other through friends of friends. We have supernova here and various cosplay events they often meet up with others, get photos taken together swap facebook info, tag each other and it seems to develop from there. Though snapchat seems to be the go more than FB at the moment.

Well it's nice to see this is a rather common problem. Everyone around me is either all about religion or all about sports.

Lots of nerdy women here!

Check out your matches. I think by virtue of the fact that we think? We tend to be nerdier than the average population? (This seems to include many men too).

Both my Nerd/Geek Nephews found their current love interests at "Magic - The Gathering". But they are in their early 20's. I can always ask if older people attend? (Apparently a combo of cards and D&D).

I got nothin helpful, sorry. I've been the nerdy girl in the 90% male nerd environment and it's not a nice feeling. I would not recommend coming onto nerdy women in these situations. They already feel like chum; they're unlikely to appreciate anyone who acts like a shark. Just make eye contact and smile; let them signal you if they're interested.

Your obviously an intelligent chap, ask yourself " Where do nerdy women hang out? " Book clubs spring to mind (if there is not one in your area start one). Are there any visiting lectures coming to town? Amature dramatics are a good source or yoga. Being skilled in IT can be a great introduction. Local historical or conservation groups too.

I have the same issue. I'm nerdy and can't find a boyfriend. I gave up online dating/apps. I don't get out enough to go to the bookstore every day. I work. No one at the gym wants me either. I'm out of ideas.

I've met a few nerdy guys on OK Cupid. It sucks that they've changed it so you have to "like" each other first. I didn't know that (it's been a while since I've even been on the site). I don't know if it works the same for women.

At least you go places.

It’s hard for me to look people in the face, as I use a cane and have to watch where I walk.

I actually have a huge problem with Anxiety, and this stops me from talking to anyone outside of my safe zone ideals. An attractive guy??? I can’t. I’ll not be his type, or he would have said something to me, right?

Check out the social media platform Minds.com and start a forum on the topic. That might work...

It's hard to meet the right people in general, these days. Individualistic societies are built in a way that encourage neuroticism and isolation. Saying "hello" or smiling at a stranger didn't used to qualify for a fight or flight response; typically the danger to oneself would have to be higher to trigger that response; but now, saying "hello" is the same as being mauled by a bear.

No idea, but I'd love to know if you figure it out. I consider myself a nerdy girl and I'd ask you out if you didn't live 800 miles away.

I have been asking the same question about where to find nerdy guys close to my age. I have also tried most of the dating cites mentioned in your post. It is hard to find a gentleman with a degree, who enjoys the sciences, can speak and write in full sentences and is not religious. Unfortunately, I have come to the conclusion that I live in a state where there are very few scientists, intellectuals or men with college degrees. I live in Florida's Space Coast where you can find a church on every block and palm readers in most local areas. It is my hope that some nerdy guy close to my age will reach out to me along the Agnostic.com divide. My advice to you is to keep looking. You are in the right place.

Funnily enough I know a handful of people who met their SO's playing online multiplayer games. They're all really good fits for one another too. Something about the comraderie(?sp) I guess.

I must be a nerdy guy. From reading the comments I seem to have the same or similar experiences.

Regarding libraries and bookstores, I agree with the comment about not interrupting people when they're reading, but I think it's OK to approach people who are browsing.

What about the college hubs? You’re young.

Watching this with interest.

PoF has been the best of a very bad bunch for me. I've actually had several dates out of it. One turned into a very short lived (about 4 weeks) relationship. During which time the guy insisted I delete (rather than suspend) all of my dating profiles. Oh, and he expected my Facebook password too (he didn't get it - I might not have anything to hide, but friends on there have confided things in me, and me only.)

Wherever you look, you'll mostly find men just looking for somewhere warm to stick their penis, and mostly women looking for relationships but massively cynical after too much exposure to men just looking for somewhere warm to stick their penis.

I saw this article about a bar in Portland. Other than a bit of a commute, it would be a great place for you! Maybe Minneapolis needs one!!

[wweek.com]