Does anyone have advice as to where to find nerdy women interested in a relationship? I've heard all kinds of advice about online and offline places to try, all of which I've been actively pursuing. I'm curious to know what a community like this has to say.

I'm a straight male looking for a woman, so this whole post is written from this perspective. I can't speak for others. All perspectives welcome! Luckily, I'm confident when it comes to approaching and talking to people in general. My problem is just FINDING anyone even vaguely nerdy AND single in my area. I live in the most densely populated city in MN.

Note: I'm aware that 'nerdy' can mean a lot of different things to different people these days.

Prepare for a wall of text!

When it comes to ONLINE dating, which I thought would have the highest amount of nerdy people since we typically spend a lot of time on the internet, however this hasn't been the case. Over the last 8 years I've tried many different apps. Here's a brief summary...

• geek2geek, Cuddli, Plenty of Fish, Sapio:
  These apps/sites are either poorly made cash grabs with ugly out-of-touch interfaces, have no users, or have been overridden by fake bot accounts. Sapio would be great since it's discussion based, but nobody uses it.

• Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel:
  These are marketed towards everyone, so it takes a serious amount of searching to find anyone even vaguely nerdy. Even more difficult to find anyone interested in a relationship rather than a hookup. Profiles tend to just be photos with no effort put into a written bio. Good luck ever getting a response.

• OKCupid:
  I've been a member of the site for 6 years and have had the most luck. I was in a relationship with a woman that I met here for almost 2 years. However, the creators of this site redesigned it so you have to both 'like' each other before messages can be seen by either party. The problem is that next to nobody uses the 'like' system, especially women. I already had a very hard time getting responses, and this change has made it even less likely.

When it comes to OFFLINE dating, I'm running out of ideas.

• Bars, Clubs:
  Not a good place to find nerdy people. People are usually drunk and not behaving like themselves, are with groups of friends so you can't get a word in, and most likely not into nerdy stuff. Not a place to find a meaningful relationship.

• 'Geek' Bars
  There are some bar-arcades in my area. I've gone a few times and it's usually just big groups of friends crowding over machines. There's no room or opportunity to speak to anyone individually. Especially difficult for a lone person like me to get a word in. I tried playing by myself on a co-op machine for a few hours, hoping people would join in. Nobody did, except there were a couple guys that played for awhile. I tried making conversation but they just kept talking to each other, ignoring me, and eventually left.

• Conventions:
  I've been to at least 7 anime or sci fi conventions in my area. The majority of people that go to these are 16-20 years old, so I feel very out of place as a 30 year old. Anyone around my age just have private drunk parties in neighboring hotel rooms.

• Meetups:
  I regularly attend 3 different nerdy meetups in my area. The turnout at each of them is usually 95% male. Any women that show up are usually the girlfriend of someone there, or are the guest speaker.

• Libraries, Bookstores:
  I was once given advice to try approaching nerdy people at these types of places, but I can now attest that it's awkward as hell and they don't want to be approached. I also see people online saying "don't ever bother me while I'm trying to read", so I've concluded that this is a bad idea.

• Public transit, or anywhere else
  These days people are defensive and go out of their way to avoid conversation. I don't blame them though. It's a dangerous world full of creeps.

Any advice on other places to try finding single, nerdy women?