My late wife had a book 'Porno for women'. It was full of pictures of men cooking, vacuuming and giving words of empathy, love and comfort. There is a recent phenomena about a Silverback Gorilla. It is called Shabani. Men can be shallow but Shabani proves women can be just as shallow. Look it up. It is not just Japanese women who fall for this.

Sense of humor rates high along with respect of others and not being self absorbed. As one tends to get older, the physical stuff doesn't matter so much anymore as long as there is attraction and connection.

Physically I don’t really have a type. I would say I’m attracted to a man who is more rugged. Blue collar. Most important to me is someone with a sense of humor. Someone that can make me laugh. I’ve definitely met some men in my life that I had zero attraction to at first but their ability to make me laugh changed everything.

If she loves the humor of Monty Python, the comedy of George Carlin, the music of Warren Zevon... if her hair looks like she doesn't spend an hour on it every morning... if she laughs a lot and smiles more... most important, if she smiles at me. If she touches my hand and looks in my eye when we talk. If she spells the complete words instead of typing "How r u" in a text.

OK, I'll admit, I like to see a nice figure. Not too skinny.

As I've grown older, what I find attractive has expanded. If she looks healthy, that goes a long way for me. Elegance and confidence are sexy, and a mix of intelligence and kindness is attractive. A dark sense of humor is a plus, too.

Intelligence is incredibly attractive. A similar sense of humor is a deal maker. And i'm a sucker for a great smile.

The first thing is eyes and a natural smile. A sense of humor, intelligence, strength, empathy and liking animals.

A great sense of humor!
If you can't let loose and laugh once in a while I'm not for you.
Pretty eyes, a warm kind face.
Faithfulness if we're serious.

I'm both Demisexual and Sapiosexual, so having intelligence is important in a relationship. I'm a person who would lie out under the stars and contemplate the universe.
I don't want some neanderthal who passed college exams because they paid to have their homework done for them saying, "that's dumb" or "that's boring" to me just because he cannot comprehend or follow what I just said. It's not necessary to be college educated. I'm not, but self-educated, speaks of motivation.
I'm a very affectionate person, and physically, I've become a bigger woman over the years. As my girth has expanded.
I find that I tend to be more attracted to a bigger man. Cuddling up with smaller folks just feels to me like I'm cuddling with my kids. The affection is there, but the attraction hasn't been. Not saying it couldn't be different with the right kind of stimulation, but being honest, thus far this is how it has been.
I love "bedroom" eyes, and eye contact, especially during intimate moments, sexy smiles, and suggestive language.

When they're glib about things others might be uncomfortable about, like oral sex or even going to the bathroom to take a shit. It's not that I find shit itself sexy, but the carefree "hey, everybody does it, why be shy about it?" attitude. I don't know, I guess I just like bluntness.

Physically, I love legs more than anything. Colored hair, tattoos, etc. are fantastic too, but as far as my favorite female body part, it's legs. And they don't even have to be super slim, either. Girls can be curvy and sexy, too.

the way a woman thinks and walks

Intelligence. Not just like book smart but also socially and self awareness. One example would be an overweight person who doesn't blame their current condition on McDonalds and just accepts that they eat too much of it.

Intelligence, matching ideologies, willing to have fun, friendly, kind, at least some similarities in hobbies/interests and are passionate about them.

Physically, I mostly don't mind anything, it comes down to a vibe I get about people I think.

Physically - I'm all over the map with that. But general for men - slim-to-thin, nice eyes, nice forearms, well proportioned sturdy hands, a certain voice, a kissable mouth, extra points for longish hair & beards .
For women : much more varied in appeal !

(And yes - bi-sexuals can be totally faithful - only one at a time, thank you !)

Turn-ons ? sense of humor, original thinker, a bit out there, a sucker for artists/musicians/craftspeople, someone who reads a lot, clever, confident, unpretentious.

Honesty.

I think being sexy is just another way of saying that the person triggers your reproductive responses. So intelligence, bodily fitness, and good health would combine to make one "sexy"

Pretty eyes, long well kept hair, a beautiful smile, and tasteful clothing are some of the physical characteristics I find sexy. A sense of humor, intelligence, respect, honesty, and confidence are a few of the intangibles that I find irresistible.

Intelligence.

Intelligence is definitely high on my list. But, for physical characteristics, I'd say the eyes first. I'm a sucker for big brown eyes. And, I'm rather fond of butts.

Intelligence, humor, compassion and kindness are sexy. A gentle touch is sexy as well as someone who knows how to kiss using lips...nibbling, exploring, and gentle tongue play ... - much sexier than a face-eating monster... Long hair can be sexy...or short.. or none... but it's that vibe- that connection that can be immediate or can be grown that is sexy. Someone who can play, who is open and curious in bed... that is sexy. It's a smell (not fragrance, per se), a touch, a vibration, a twinkle, a laugh.. and finally strength and some control during the right times...

Psychologically confidence is probably my number one, followed closely by tactfulness, and being candid in nature.

Physically number one is always eyes, followed immediately by their derriere, then it's just overall proportion and physical fitness in general, and you can look as good at 80 lbs as you do at 250 lbs if you're proportionate and healthy.

Food porn. I'm just kidding. I guess I find tall guys with long hair, an open mind a good sense of humor, intelligence, and knows how to cook very attractive. I'm not sure if I answered this question very well, but I tried.

A smile that is on the lips and in the eyes, wit, kindness, confidence,
a wiggle in the walk, a genuine laugh, logical mind, conviction, honesty, ethics, and a little naivety.

intelligence wit and authenticity.

When you look across a room, you do not see personality. So my first attraction is physical. And if someone does not have the physical attributes that I notice first, it still is not a deal breaker, just what gets my attention. I notice facial hair and eyes right away, and a nice smile goes along with it. Body types vary for me. I first notice average size or thin guys, but I have been attracted to plenty of bigger guys. After the initial physical attraction, people become more or less attractive based on who they are. Intelligence is a must, non religious, humorous, and most of all, a compassion for others.