I recently downloaded two books for men, on relating to women and how to have a great relationship. I thought that maybe I could see what men think we need or want.
Have you done any reverse โresearchโ?
(I donโt think this meme is correct, I believe we are all individuals who have many layers. )
When my son who is normally quite intelligent was about 17, he made the most stupid statement of his life. "I don't know what the fuss is, I understand women". I told him that one day he would be embarrassed to have ever made that claim. I was right. I see little difference between men and women, a few genetic switches but that's it. I feel the same about gender and sexual preference, it is all very superficial. What I think/believe the problem is our social roles and understanding. Women and men are forced into acting certain ways and social norms results in them acting differently to get what they want, which is also different due to said norms.
That photo is one of the MAJOR problems right there.
As a man I get really sick of women portraying men as the bumbling, simplistic , emotionally incompetent part of the equation.
Its a huge part of TV's comedy culture, and really takes advantage of men's general forgiving and understanding nature.
Youโre correct. On a couple of things. I rather like nimble, complex, emotionally grounded men.
The meme, I didnโt agree with it. And kinda my point about what men want.
I've been a little snarky here. Honestly I've never even considered "How to relate to a Woman."
From that I approach I don't give a crap, because it is crap.
Let's throw gender out the window and talk about humans. Be yourself and don't worry about "how to appeal" to others. Be genuine and care about others. Do not be ashamed about who and what you are. Have genuine interest in the other person. You will be a human magnet. That really sums it up.
Maybe the post shows that women are way too complicated (for some men anyway).
Humans are very complex. That makes some of their interactions with each other complex as well. Toss in pairing/mating instincts and the mix can defy all logical analysis.
I didn't know what women wanted. I had no idea what I thought. Thank goodness Cosmo magazine was there to tell me.
I read Redbook to attempt such understanding. Good recipes though.
Iโve read some cosmopolitan articles. Sometimes they havenโt a clue.
Oh it wasnโt at the market, I actually paid for it lol @AMGT
@sarahjustme word.
I love cosmo. In a nutshell girls you just aren't trying hard enough to be a subservient man pleaser. Dudes you're just stupid.
I've watched a few "this is what men want" vids on YouTube, but I'm never sure how to take them. Some are incredibly sensitive while others would make you think twice about men altogether.
Can you summarize how to understand women for me?
When my son was 10, he told me he didn't understand girls. He was shocked when I said, "That's great."
"How's that good?" He asked me.
I explained to him that I don't understand them either, but it took me thirty years to figure that much out. He was way ahead.