I know I was very close to suicide right after my divorce. Not the same thing, I know. I know I fell back on some very unhealthy habits at the same time. Didn't go out of my way to survive, which can lead to bad things.
Part of you that was a we is gone. It hurts, it can be traumatic. You can want to die. Sometimes that is enough.
The trick is to find your trick. When you get into those moments when just ending the pain seems easier or better you need to have a trick to pop you back into reality. Now, the bad news is if you get like this you will get a lot of practice at the trick. I found mine, and it became a reflex. I still get sad and lonely and regretful and all the rest of it, but I know I'll have to just keep going. Because every time I get to the end of my rope I have my little mental trick.
Hi, Daniella.
Get into Manhattan, much?
MIchael
This is a really interesting article about how loneliness can be just as lethal as smoking.
Too many surviving spouses die too soon after the death of their beloved for me to believe it is coincidence.
I think it's possible... But not very healthy.