@atheist So your plan is to get someone else to maintain your marriage for you ? As in , some other man will give your wife all the things you can't be bothered to do for her ? And she doesn't have to bother with doing anything for your benefit ,either ?

@atheist Extras is not the same as basic maintenance . Extras would be like going through a car wash , where as basic would be like gas and oil . SOunds like you want to go for a ride , but don't want to fill up the gas tank .

@atheist And your plan is , you don't do any of the work . Had one like that once . Gave him back to his Mommy .

@atheist There a couple of others here , whining that , "I don't know why she left me ." Remember this when you join that club .

Lol!

You have been reading my wishlist!

Treat her exactly like she treats you.

If you have to interrupt her she wasn't treating you with dignity and respect in the first place. See #1

She is not right as often as she would like you to believe.

If she doesn't like penises what are you wasting your time talking to her for?

Well, hello, soulmate. furiously batting my eyelashes

@Ruby_Slipper @HippieChick58 Sorry ladies, only here for community, I have a beautiful wife that is a keeper.

@Anonbene

I always treat others with dignity and respect, regardless of how they treat me. If they do not reciprocate, I move on.

Unwarranted interruptions are best avoided. If they are not treating me with dignity and respect, see #1

I know that - why burst her bubble?

It is irrelevant how much she likes penises. Sending unsolicited pics is about consent not content.

@Uncorrugated

Your first two sentences contradict each other. You can't say regardless and then add a condition.

I see you added a condition to being interrupted. Unwarranted, who's to say if the interruption is unwarranted? The woman that won't shut up or the guy refuting the last thing she said before she goes off on some non related tangent still assuming her last point was valid simply because she wasn't corrected?

My statement on whether penises are relevant in relationships and the ladies opinion of penises stands on it's own.

@Anonbene

I don't see the contradiction. If a relationship is not working, it is not disrespectful or undignified to say so and end the relationship. It would be more disrespectful to continue a relationship just to get your end away from time to time....

In general, men and women communicate differently. Men often want to 'fix things' when all that is needed is to listen and not to start offering solutions. I often work with families where the biggest problem is that one partner never lets the other finish and they just end up talking over each other and getting nowhere. For much of the time it is better to let someone finish before sticking in your 2 cents worth. That doesn't mean there aren't times when you need to interrupt and reframe the conversation, it just means you have to work out when the interruption is needed.

I know lots of ladies who like penises but don't want to be sent pictures of them. So I stand by my comment about consent.

I married one of those and I got left behind because I got my shit together and someone else didn't. Good riddance I say!

@geeky1965 Yeah, I dated one for 3 years and wondered why he never seemed more invested in our relationship and spent so much time obsessing over a former troubled co-worker who'd broken his heart 5 years prior to our relationship. He hadn't even dated the co-worker, either. She'd just used him for emotional support while living with an abusive boyfriend who she kept going back to, and then when she got pregnant with the abuser's child, she cut off all contact with my future b/f. He got so depressed, he went on medical leave from work for 2 months, and when he returned, she'd left the company. 5 years later when we started dating, he was still depressed over it. eyeroll About a year after we stopped dating, I learned he was dating a drug addict who was trying to get clean and he was doing everything in his power to help her... like pay her rent and pay some of her tuition at pharmacy school. A drug addict going to school to be a pharmacist?? Really? Yeah, I can't see the problem with that! eyeroll...again.

@atheist Being compassionate and having a savior complex to feed your ego are two completely different things.

Lol.

Almost word for word what I was going to say except I was going to try and work a scalpel in there somewhere.

@kmdskit3 why use a scalpel when you have 10 fingers?

@kmdskit3 Me, too, but I was going to specify which ribs, too.

Haha, good one. I was gonna say .50 BMG but people would've taken that the wrong way

my favorite joke - thru the chest with a sharp knife.

Usually with a bone saw and rib spreader. rolls eyes Don’t act like you guys don’t watch Grey’s Anatomy too!????

I'd laugh

yes, show up with a truck bed full of puppies

@atheist Kittens!

You judgemental about birds of a feather @birdingnut? Never!

@atheist Gross. Now I'll block you. I was giving you the benefit of a doubt.

@atheist Hahaha!

LOL!!!!!!

@Crimson67 ditto. I might look at it a minute then hand it back

Not all of us.

@atheist I know right. But imagine you are are 26 years old, you have a 3 months old baby girl. It is raining so you have her in one of those baby things on your chest while you check out your fave surf spot. 7 drop dead topless girls between 18 and 23 come running out of the surf and crowd all around you because you are this big guy with the very tiny baby all in pink on your chest. My blood was boiling. I have found that women love good dads. There are some possible conflicts in all this, but, I no complain.

LMAO

So mysterious

That's just wrong

that wouldn't go over with me. I don't think I'm "pretty". and I don't think pretty is something I aspire to. Tell me I'm witty, I'm insightful (and please don't sound surprised when you say it), tell me I'm wise, and kind, and compassionate. Make me laugh, and laugh at my jokes. Ask for my advice and show me that you are listening!

Yup! That's a lot of it right there!

i beat you too it lol

@atheist Don't let anyone walk all over you. What did you think I meant?

@atheist And been pushed off it too without a parachute.

@atheist he, he, he, ha, he.... you know, when they tell you, take a good look at it because it is the last time you are going to see it. he, he, ha.

Now that sounds like a cautionary tale you should finish!

@RavenCT Finished, I hope.

@atheist like in, "If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bullshit."?

@atheist thx for the vote of confidence; ^)

@Condor5 wrong answer lol

@rossit0725 see what I mean?

Make sure she is independent first. Nothing worse than a woman that is high maintenance and doesn't have the money to support herself.