I hate arguing. I stay out of aarguments. I never get into them. If I ever end up in one, I apologize and back out quickly. I then give people space. I don't like conflicts. Even if I am right and I know I am right, I don't try to prove it by making others uncomfortable and I don't use a harsh tone of voice. I learned to listen to the one that is upset, until they have stopped talking. Then I will explain from my point of view. If they still don't see reason or they don't understand me, I drop it. One day they will figure out they were wrong. If I am wrong (I'm wrong a lot) I still don't argue. I hate hearing people argue as well. I take pride in being a nice person. I did learn, never argue with a religious person who doesn't understand common sense. They just end up judging you. I don't debate theists anymore. I have more important things to do now. Do you hate arguing too?
To be fair, I like arguments if I'm winning the argument. Otherwise, I generally don't go looking for one. If it's a civilized debate with someone who is simply enthusiastic to learn more, than an argument can be rather enjoyable.
Oh, I have to tell you: in German, the word Argument (accent on the last syllable) is neither debate nor fight, but the point you make in a debate. "Ein gutes Argument'" a good argument = a good point made. Germans, on the whole LOVE debating, even when it starts to look and sound a bit like a fight to an Englishman. They get a lot more animated doing it than the old school Kiwis ( New Zealander) I missed that German trait here for a long time. Maybe the young ones are a bit easier to get into hearty debates, but the old fashioned Kiwi could hardly see a difference between debate and fight. Much like old English idea of being polite. I found that a real handicap in getting into topics to any depth ... disagreement can bring out more sides to a thing, more depth.
When I was in Berlin in in 1973 it seeme d to me that the people in the bars were always talking about correct grammar it seemed like the National Pastime - I would say something (in very poor German) and then the debate about what I could /should have said raged on.
Let me tell you a secret. Men do dot argue with there partners if they are right, only if theyre wrong. " What do mean? Its a sad day when a guy can`t disappear for a weekend without all this hassle "
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" look what you made me do "
" WTF I will be in my den "
Sometime you can find out the truth by arguing.