FTA: In her experience, Benham found she was unable to truly embrace her sexual desires until she went through her apostasy, which was a long process beginning in her mid-twenties. “I feared being ‘out’ as poly, kinky, and pansexual because I wasn’t ‘out’ as a humanist, and my business as a health practitioner depended on continued clients from the religious community,” she recalls. “The shadow of purity culture is far-reaching.”