I really dislike generalizing. Good and bad exist in any group/gender/whatever. "crazies" may occur anywhere !

I think it's a mistake to place the locus of blame on a gender. While in my experience women have their own unique ways of being asshats, men are, in their own way, equally hideous. And given the historical context of patriarchy, men have generally gotten away with a LOT more (and a lot worse).

It's easy to be blind to your own, or your gender's, bad faith and perfidy, and to be acutely sensitive to that of your partner or their gender.

The real problem is the human condition. It's true that it effects men and women, in general terms, differently. But I see no evidence that men are more virtuous and blameless than women, or in particular that they are victims compared to women.

I am disappointed in relationships and in women on an overall basis; considering my life as a whole, I wish I hadn't bothered. But I also had a role in all that, and have to factor in who the common denominator is here, where there might be something actionable for me -- not some floating, nameless "women" ... but ME. I often ruefully joke that I'm not only not the man I used to be; evidently, I never WAS the man I used to be.

So while I'm deeply disappointed in the whole notion of romantic love, the ideal of a "soulmate", etc., I am not embittered as a result toward women. It simply hasn't worked out for me specifically as I'd hoped, with the tiny sample of partners I've been involved with. And if I'm honest, I don't know anyone for whom it has, not over time, especially the long haul. Long term relationships aren't a magic nostrum for what ails you, they are more an amplifier of whatever you bring to them. They are, over time, invariably a lot of work in exchange for uncertain outcomes.

Once in a great while, a couple grabs the "brass ring" that everyone wants -- the so-called "vital marriage" that is mostly conflict-free, that flows pretty organically, and which both parties consider the greatest joy of their existence. And I'm not sure there's a lot of rhyme or reason to when that happens or doesn't, frankly. It's more luck than skill really.

I would think it is a resounding yes for many men and women.

I question the sanity of everyone regardless of their gender or orientation.

I find it hard to believe that has a guy you haven't heard the bragging, suggestions, or comments of the jackasses.

No.

no. i still like women.