For some reason, folks want to believe that I am highly religious since I do charity work and not simply because it is in my heart to do so.
Welcome to our little world and may you find joy, friendship, happiness and more in our little site among equals. Just be yourself.
I've done voluntary work most of my adult life, mainly because I believe in the furtherment of humanity (and protection of a healthy environment) through human endeavour.
As for treating people the way I want to be treated...I try to be helpful but treat people according to their behaviour. e.g. recently I was sick as a dog at work and had a collegue just watch me slog over the last part of my shift. I no longer give him a lift home. I lent someone a fiver, I didn't get it back, I won't help them out again. Because I wouldn't behave like them and they need to face the consequences of their actions. Anyone like me wouldn't get a negative response.
I was a nice guy when I was religious. I'm just as nice now. Nothing changed, morally or ethically speaking. There are good people in and out of religion, but for good people to do bad things, that takes religion -- as I think Sam Harris said.
Many religious people have bought the bill of goods that the source of morality is god, as mediated by their church, and therefore, that makes them better people. Everyone wants to be their best, so this serves as an inducement to keep them in the faith.
Of course, it's made-up nonsense.
Some of it, in my own experience with charitable work, is because so many charity orgs are “faith-based”.