Perfect for me would be someone loyal and honest, who hate sports and people as much as I do. Someone I could drink coffee or beer with, go to the beach, on last minute adventures, binge watch horror movies and shows, sing in the car (or that at least let me sing in the car), someone who find zombies as ilogic as I do, and who likes to eat as much as I love to cook. Someone, if such a person exist, that can understand my volatile temper. I don't think I ask for much. ????????????????

I need someone who is independent enough not to have to be glued to my hip, but who also likes/wants to spend some time with me.

A healthy bedroom relatonship should include the following::

1. Two people sharing one bed-not so simple for some people.People like to mark their territory and don't like to share their space.They need to share the space equally and be respectful of each other. A shared bed should not be a challenge or a control issue. Changing positions throughout the night is dizzying.

2. TV remotes should not be controlled by one individual. Why does oneperson control the volume? Why does the volume have to be on all night? Sleep is not meant to be in 1 hour installments. Why must someone sleepwiththe remote in hand allnight?

3. I will never share a bed with a control freak again.

maybe my problem is i don't have a set of clear guidelines. i visualise laughs, easy affection. working together and cooking together.sex would have been a huge part of it in my 20's.taking off for a hike or daytrips.I do enough with my mind/head I don't think I need help with that.I would like someone a little more social than me but could stand being alone too

Like any friendship, either one is supported by the other where needed/possible and each is comfortable talking about the things that matter to them.

All of these things later in life become the things you shared again when you are alone. I look back at these little things at 79 and isn't wonderful my relationship survived all these things and i am still lucky enough to have my family around me to share my old age with.

I'll let you know when/if I ever find out.

I had one. And yes, I had to put up with her farts (every morning, the walls of Jericho....good lord), and her likes and dislikes and a whole lot of other things. And so?

Every night, I could crawl under the covers, and snuggle up to her, and the world was all right. Until she slapped my face in her sleep, or kicked all the covers off because she was too warm.

But she put up with my snoring, and my love of mathematics (she hated math-she didn't even like calculators that much), and my half-crazed way of looking at the world. And we were a team. An awesome team. Intimacy and space, without it ever needing to be spoken about (although I told her I loved her every chance I got. People need that, I think).

Life is big AND small. We have to come to terms with that, you know?

I think the way people sleep in bed... cuddling together or apart is a matter of prefference.

Personally I think the foundation of a strong relationship are communication, respect, compromise... as long as they love each other, it's ok.

I heard plenty of times people who break up because of moving for university or job. But really, that's not love... they clearly loved their career more than the partner. People are not willing to compromise or have loyalty for relationships anymore... it seems like it's increasingly more common to see relationships last only several months or 1-2 years rather than 10-20 years until one cheats. And even cheating... too many people forgive it. You can't cheat on someone you love... that shows no respect. I understand being drunk and kissing someone but if you are irresponsible enough to all out have sex then maybe you shouldn't get drunk in the first place. What else would you do, drunk driving? Being drunk is no excuse. Anyway I went off on a tangent.

A caring, sharing relationship which leaves both with a sense of fulfillment.

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I'm not real big on the fart smelling thing...

I live in the flat beloew my partner he has OCD and I have DID - we seem to be able to facilitate looking out for each other pretty well. I do the cooking, cleaning & shopping he does all the financial stuff that I am incapable of plus making appointments and all that side of things. It works for us. We eat together and have our own space as well.

I used to want to get married again, and help raise somebody else's kids....get my family back. But that phase of my life has passed. I'm having enough problems just dealing my own mind......WTF!! It would be nice to have a nice woman come over and spend the night with me, go to a movie, do dinner.....twice a month....wow....that would be awesome. The older you get the harder it is to find anything going on with regards to "romance"....and "falling in love".......it's just too much just living from day to day. And really for anything to happen, you really have to be memorized by each other. Which ain't gonna happen, it's almost like serendipity. But if you are an athiest, then there are no Angels either.... ha ha. Sadly, at 65, a lot of people are being put in nursing homes....or just dying on me!! They are dropping like flies. It's called "getting old"!!! Occasionly, I will check out some bands that kick my ass. Don't drink too much anymore....don't go to bars.

Every couple needs a balance of togetherness and space. And it changes throughout life.

The only relationships that have been healthy for me, ie. a relationship in which I truly enjoy being with the other due to mutual support, etc., has been with a married woman. If I never find someone available that gives me the same thing, I'll be satisfied.

I agree sharing space with a special someone is most pleasing. In addition, intimate, close encounters of passionate affection (both giving and receiving) offer a degree of bliss not achievable by any other means but the paramount of any healthy relationship is mutual respect, openness, honesty and recognition of the partner's positive attribues, compatibility in likes/dislikes, priorities, aptitudes and expectations are also necessary to maintain a healthy relationship.

Compromise and respect are the backbone of a healthy relationship.

Someone who you know has your back. Trust, respect, communication. You love them for all they are, you can laugh with them and cry with them, support each other through good and bad, and inspire the best in each other. When you go to sleep at night, you think of them and smile with your whole being.