@doglvr1882 In between significant relationships I have had casual relationships with several men at a time not always sexual but good to hang out with, not long term friends either although sometimes they have become good friends, once I commit to someone though there's not enough room for more than one

I believe that humans by our nature are both bi sexual and poly, but due to religion and paranoia we have restricted our-self's to something that is both unnatural and does not help our species evolve. Besides poly relationships can be anything from very close friends (without sex at all) to married couples.

Poly can only work if all want it. My ex had a girlfriend and we got along together we all had feelings for each other and we for the most part were all together at the same time. I think where a problem comes in is when there isn't a togetherness. Other than that I've only been in monogamous relationships.

Certainly not everyone can pull off poly. you have to really do some soul searching and you will feel the answer in your gut. Maybe sharing someone in a 3way first would be easier for some people???

I think it's important for you to pay attention to that gut feeling when he is with others.

I refuse to be in a monogamous relationship; simple as that.

When all is said and done, I have seen very few poly arrangements that work out. Count me as one of the monogamous ones. I also realize that monogamy and monotony are not the same thing.????