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Here for dating?

So, you find the site and many more like-minded people than in your daily life. Then, you find someone particularly attractive, be it physical or how his or her self description hits you.
Do you find yourself "hyper-focused", or are you more likely to meet several, with the intention of winnowing the field?
I find that I can only focus on one person at a time. The energy it takes to date several women is far too great.
I can create multiple friendships at any given moment, given that the focus is limited. But the idea of "dating around" hurts my brain.
What about you?

EricList 5 Mar 5
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I came here primarily to date, but enjoy interacting with everyone. I like this site very much so far.

Multiple relationships are good by me. As it stands, I'm (hopelessly) in love with one guy I've been dating for almost 5 months, and I also date others regularly. He inspires me not to settle. Our relationship is totally open, full of honesty, encouragement, and support. No jealousy.

I've dated a couple guys that approached me on this site, and I'd definitely like to go out again with one of them (if you're reading this, ahem). 😉 He was super nice. Smart, too. I recon he's too busy right now, or something. Later then, perhaps. ❤

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Dating is not my primary reason for being here. That said, it would be nice to befriend, date, have a relationship with like minded women, being on this site shows we wouldn't clash on the subject of religion, which is a big point for me. Friends.....several,........dating.... maybe more than one, .....relationship.......only one

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It would probably be healthy to date, but i am too numb to get into a relationship after the cluster F I just got out of.

JK666 Level 7 Mar 15, 2018
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Absolutely no to multi dating. Yes I joined because this was advertised as a dating site, but I'm not opposed to making friends. One at a time please.

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One person at a time

Sunny Level 4 Mar 14, 2018
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I like thing simple

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Not here for dating.

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I like to focus on one person, see where it goes. Otherwise, it doesn't feel like I'm giving the relationship a chance.

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If I meet someone I’m intellectually compatible with, yes. If not I’m okay with intellectual conversations.

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It depends. If you're just looking to have fun, I see nothing wrong with dating as many or as few people as you like. If you're looking for a committed relationship, my feeling is that it only works if you commit to one person.

Of course, no matter what you choose, honesty is vital.

marga Level 7 Mar 6, 2018
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What someone told me when I started dating after my divorce is that a person is supposed to date lots of different types of people; experience lots of different personalities. (Date, not sleep with.) And then a person chooses the best one with the idea that you make a better, wiser, more informed choice. Which sounds reasonable and seems like a good idea in theory.
But it's exhausting in practice. It's a lot of work. A lot to remember and keep straight.

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I've never dated off the internet, yet at least, but have the tendency to "hyper focus" in the past and have to watch myself with "catching feels" too quickly.
At my age not a lot of room for error so am keeping watch on my "default" setting.

Back "in the day" when not settled still always had favorites. I really don't like juggling though and hated dating with a bloody passion.

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I am very much so the same, I have a hard time "spreading my oats" in pretty much any situation. I'm an all or nothing type person. I constantly put myself in sticky situations by having all my eggs in one basket, so dating is very much so the same. I'll put energy into one person until it's time to move on, to which I'll then put all my energy into the next and so on and so forth.

That is true, also I usually end up becoming friends long term because of friendship blossoming throughout contact, whether it becomes a relationship or not

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Maybe, you have the right idea about dating. You are giving yourself a chance to get past first impressions and I would have to agree, you must give of yourself into an unknown sitution and not loose yourself either! Best of luck to you...

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I did not come here for dating, but i feel your pain.

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I'm here because I don't like being bombarded with religious zealots. If a romance starts, great. I won't hold my breath though. I expect very little from humans.

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One at a time based on total package. Made a friend. It takes time to meet new people.

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