There's no simple answer to that one. Psychology dictates every person is different but what's inherently similar is the need to find a partner that is above their measure of what is important, for example a surgeon would look for someone selfless and caring, anything that sits in their psyche as being the highest motivator. In the case of some, like me, they've given up because they're so unique no one fits the criteria.
Animal atraction... that impulse brain can't control. We will take it from there... that is just for the foot on the door. I am going to be Brutal but... smart conversation after poor sex... is not of my fancy. If I was searching for a mother to my children my attitude will be different but... that is not in my agenda now.