Do you think the idea of God and heaven, has any value as a tool to explain death to children? As long as you teach them to grow out of it in the same way they do santa clause? Or should you be honest with them right from the beginning?
Well... To be fair Santa is also regional. Klaus is the one who punishes bad kids and brings them to hell so that's true. One version of Santa is a drunkard who in probition became cheery, rosy cheeked, and so on during probition going from leaving out alcohol to milk and cookies. Chris Kringle and the bringing children who'd been chopped up back to life and together in a barrel.
Jeez. Santa has the same stuff as gods. Except we can trace many origins of Santa with some aggreement. The green man is one of my favourite Santa which is transitionary.
I think honesty is possibly the best policy most children grow out of Santa by themselves when they get the joke- Pets that don't have a long shelf life are good for explaining death after they have been ritually buried in a shoebox with all your best flower blooms and great ceremony. I don't think there are any shoulds or oughts about explaining.At some poing tou will pass a burial place and they might ask questions then about what it is - I think its a good idea not to put it on them till they ask or it happens naturally.
You can’t fool me. There ain’t no Sanity Clause! - Chico Marx
There are times that lying to your children is in their best interests. I don't see how lying to them about God or Santa Claus is helpful to their emotinal or mental development.
Maybe? If they're taught as stories, just like our modern day fairy tales, they can be beneficial in helping children understand why being human is so complicated. The stories of God and his own kids and the infighting among the angels, these are how families struggle, and learning to work it out WITHOUT Armageddon is a powerful lesson.
I talk to my 11 year old honestly, she knows I'm an atheist but was brought up a Catholic so I can give her both sides of the argument. I just tell her to question everything and develope her critical thinking. If she's taught how to think she'll be ok and come to the same conclusion as me. I won't impose atheism on her or that would make me no better than those I oppose.
Death is a tricky one but kids are smart. In my own life I think being active in remembering the person - retelling stories with others who loved the person - is my way to deal with grief. God need never be a factor when you smile (I hope) and remember the person as they were. Santa/Easter Bunny/Tooth Fairy for my kids is a story - lol!