Pretty much I was sexually abused as a child by my father (depressive) and physically abused by my mother (manic) those scars take a long time to heal - I once phoend the Samaritans and they told em to get get off the line -I left home at 15 years old - My current partner and I are physical and loving & caring but non sexual . I have D.I.D from my childhood experiences and that takes a fair bit of managing - I think its perfectly okay to state boundaries straight away and maintain them with vigour to make sure they are not breached - and there are kindly souls out there. I hope that we both get to meet them !

Thank you for sharing such personal stories. I'm sorry that you've had to endure these things. I have questions though, and perhaps questions you should ask yourself. Would you consider yourself Asexual? Do you (don't answer if it's too personal) pleasure yourself? Perhaps there are some things you need to work out with yourself before even persuing a relationship of any kind with a guy. Have you seeked counseling? I don't blame you or find fault in you at all, but sometimes we do have to work out some things, and know your boundaries. You obviously need to take things slow when getting to know guys. And I think in some way, it's good to let them know upfront that you're not a very sexual person. Perhaps that will deture them from talking about it. It may turn guys off but who cares, if you respect yourself enough and know what you want and need, I believe someone out there will be understanding. Do give up, things will get better!

It is sad to hear you talk like this. You are not the first woman to feel this way and sadly you won't be the last. Sex can be so lovely, beautiful and intermate it seems a shame that it is denied to some because of the horrors that some men do. I hope that one day you may find a guy who will be patient, gentle and understanding. It may be this new friend but he seems to be getting impatient. I think you need to sat him striaght and see if he will stay the coarse.
I have been with many woman who have been abused (it is difficult to find any that have not) I tend to start with just touching. Hand, head, neck and foot rubs are a good start and work slowly from there.