I would not date a believer because I would feel that I would either have to argue over beliefs, or lie about my own (even worse). It's really important to me to share similar beliefs with someone I date long-term.

Maybe, if the believer put the romantic relationship first, and his God for later. I know that he will choose his God first. I'm not a second choice so not date.

No, because they are not competent to give consent

The test. Say, "Fuck God" or "Fuck Jesus" and check their reaction. If they don't have a problem with it then their minds may be open enough to be with longer that a few screws. Who wants to be with someone that you aren't able to be yourself with?

That depends on the ultimate goal: casual date for companionship/fun or serious relationship with hope for a long term committment? As long as we can respectively agree to disagree, not trying to convert/deconvert the other, I don't see that as a reason not to enjoy a show or dinner together.

OTOH, a deeper committment would require authenticity, mutual respect, and attraction. Deluded thinking is not something I have any respect for.

If there life is centered around thei5r belief, then we'd have nothing at all in common.

I don't want to have to say "I'm nto interested in religion" more than once.

Wouldn't because they will attempt to force me to believe as they do as a condition of the relationship. Would if I could be sure they'd respect my lack of belief and not need me to accept their belief.

Interesting question … but what exactly is a believer?

I would not. Way too low IQ.

You have to always be aware that a time might come when your lover cries because an invisible part of you is going to burn forever in a mythical place as decreed by a jealous man who lives in the sky. You have to change beliefs in order to fix this. If it never happens you are OK. Some people make this sort of change to save their marriage.

Depends on what they believe.

I have and it has never been a problem. There are many shades in the spectrum of believers. I have never and would never date a church going believer. That would not work. With the vast majority of women I have been with I have no idea what they believed. The subject never came up, and that was and is fine with me.

It really depends on the believer. I've met people who believe there's something out there but also disagree with organized religion. So long as it's something like that where she's not shoving her religion down my throat, I don't see a problem.

Been there, done that & will not go back!
When I first met my ex-bf he was wearing a hat with a cross on it (my head said - strike 1), then I noticed he had dip in his mouth (strike 2), then I realized he was a tad shorter than I am (strike 3 - or should have been) but we got along & laughed a lot. Once the relationship became serious, boy did I learn a lot. I know this could all be just 'that guy' but dang! Hypocracy almost to the extent of the current American president.... reciting the bible, posting bible quoted in FB or writing them on slips of paper leaving them all over the house. Asking me to go to church even though he only went at christmas. Whining about living in sin, yet drinking to excess & lying about going to the casino with his brother in law.

It would depend on the degree of devoutness. I could date someone who, for more superficial reasons, attended church or felt a connection to their family religion, but beyond that sort of go-along-to-get-along mentality, or the general belief in something nonspecific but with a dash of "who cares" tossed in, our values would likely be too divergent to foster a long-term relationship.

Believers will eventually run their conversion trip on you.

I could and would date a believer if they were not strongly religious, were otherwise compatible with me, and were open-minded enough to accept me as a non-believer. Unfortunately, in my experience, very few believers in my area are open-minded and accepting of non-believers, which is not surprising. Because few of them have ever actually known a non-believer as a friend or something closer than that and also because as members of the dominant, mainstream culture, they can easily find and choose among many other fellow believers to date, thus, they have little to no motivation to be more flexible or open-minded about dating non-believers. As I often say about the dating game, most people are only as open-minded as the dating market forces them to be. Otherwise, as long as they don't feel it would doom them to being alone forever, most people are very close-minded about who they will date and will mostly choose others who are an opposite gender version of themselves as far as background, interests, culture, and lifestyle.

I would date a believer if she will not impose religion, superstitions on me as I would not on her. I respect the choices of others and do not want them to change for me. I believe two good people with different backgrounds, thinking can come together for many good things. However, I would not want her to be a fanatic, hurtful to her and others.

I married a religious woman 27 years ago. She is not religious now but she not an atheist either. but it never come in the way in building a good life. We discussed all choices in front of the daughter growing up. I told my thinking, she did hers. I won... lol. No force, no compulsion. You can call it brain washing. The child is an atheist.

Is she hot? End of sentence, period, rest my case, end of the story...... If you read between the lines then you will see that I am saying that I don't really care what the other person beliefs might be, for as long as she keep hers and I keep mine.

I would date a believer, entirely depending on chemistry between us.......if it was there, then yes I would....whether it would last or not is another matter entirely!

Same reason I won't date a criminal. Dangerous. And no way I'd be able to refrain from making fun of their invisible friend! That would be mean.

A believer does not automatically eliminate the possibilities of friendship and even an emotional connection but it is not a good thing starting out.

Given the very select few in my area that are like me, dating a believer is almost inevitable if you want to date.

I'd date a believer if she was rare enough, but I have yet to see a woman that wasn't rare and very well done. -D.Z.

A believer in what? It seems that everyone is a believer in something; even agnostics, who believe in respecting evidence.