If he’s anything like me, he may take a while to warm up to someone new. I’m a dirty girl, but for only ONE man, and a man I’m very connected to and in tune with. Until we get to that level of comfort, he’s not going to be getting sexy talk or porn sex from me.

Your partner may need time to build a connection. Unfortunately, showing him that article is likely to backfire and push him further away rather than draw him in.

At the risk of sounding blunt, this post feels you could be a self-absorbed lover, focusing not even on your needs, but on your wants. Try to go easy on the poor man so early in your relationship ... you don’t want to shatter his confidence in the bedroom.

Sex is a very vulnerable experience and he may be uncomfortable with allowing himself to be even more vulnerable with you.

For many years I was silent during sex.

After awhile I realized how and why it is important to some women.

I felt like a complete idiot when I first started talking during sex. It felt fake to me because it was fake.

Now, it is something I just do and actually like it. I have to do it with honesty though. If not, I am not as into it.

As for the guy below; Dude I totally get eating while having sex. Fucking in front of the refrigerator is like Christmas to me.

Beats me I get vocal maybe not loudly

It is not right to pressure/guilt people into sex things they are not comfortable in doing.

If he isn’t used to talking or talking dirty during sex, it might take him a while to figure it out or get better at it.

i fucking love dirty talk and suggestions etc its horney as fuck xx

People have various hangups and baggage they carry from how they were raised to what they experienced in past relationships... my FWBs was not vocal at all, not even moaning, so I had a talk with him about it and now he at least tries to do spicy talk during... and if he does not, then I ask him to do so during our fun

noisy screaming sex with the headboard banging is great if you live in a big house, no others listening and no neighbours with recording equipment .... doing howling banshee sex is great so long as you have the bottle to cope with the breakfast table looks from disgust to admiration....and desire
Of course , the anonymity of a hotel makes it all ok ... ... hotels are good

That article is a lot to digest. I can see where he would feel bad. May take some work on your part to help him feel.good about this part of your relationship and that you only want to make it even better.

My wife and I are silent during sex. We have been married for 47 years. I like to fantasize during sex which I believe is fairly common.

He may feel awkward about it for a variety of reasons. Until the right partner came along (pun intended) I was pretty quiet too. It always felt contrived.

It's good that you brought it up and he's willing to talk about it. Maybe ask him sexy time questions that require a specific answer to get him going.

I think men are afraid and with that are silent to be in a neutral position. One thing that I agree with is that he probably does not know what he wants and most likely has never experimented other than basic sex . He probably thinks he will upset you if he does say naughty things and about what he would like done to him and most likely has had no experience receiving either. He is afraid to ask or express his feelings
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Maybe an ice breaker to get him to open up is make a list of all the sex acts and make it a very broad range and put a tick besides all the ones you have tried or interested in or ones that really turn you on Plus the hard limits No ones also. Then have him read it, You will probably get some funny looks and then tell him to do the same and that there will be no judgement one way or another and see what happen.

,Ones he reads the list more than likely he is going to feel a lot more comfortable about what you like or want to try. Now he knows his thoughts are ok to express also and see where it goes

I'm not very vocal during sex but I do talk. I don't need anything like the movies provide for us as it is disrespectful and crude.