The idea that I'm not worthwhile and will never be enough for anyone, so everyone will always leave. It holds me back from even trying to make friends, date, anything really.
You are worthwhile, just be enough for you right now. The rest will come later.
Money. I don't need a lot, just more than what I have. Scaping by here.
An overactive brain and anxiety. If I had the recources or ability to hone or control it, I'd probably be crushing life right now.
@silvereyes I’m trying . My solace is that I’ve already improved so much.
The person that people think I am, and the fear of shattering that illusion.
Myself. As an example I want to write a book but as much studying with how-to books and voracious reading I realized I was putting off the writing. The idea stays in my head. But in the past week I’ve realized if I do finish a piece it would expose who I am and that scares the shit out of me. I could make a fool out of myself. I’m always questioning myself.
My mental health problems, lack of money, lack of transportation, and unstable living arrangements.
Money is certainly a factor, but I know exactly what holds me back, like so many others have said here - it's myself, and if I could tackle certain aspects of my personality, the lack of money wouldn't be as much of an issue. I have a fear of success and the responsibilities that come with it, I'm a procrastinator, I'm lazy (I'd rather spend my time binging on netflix or other guilty pleasures than be productive most of the time), and right now, my physical health is an issue. So...fix me, and I'm golden.
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Men. I have a bad habit of putting their needs above mine, but getting divorced and working on myself (with the help of my amazing therapist) has helped me remember who I am, and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm pretty thrilled that I can see and acknowledge red flags these days, and I can honestly say that I have the self-confidence to walk away when it's warranted.
Also, time. I have a love-hate relationship with my schedule, and while it keeps me financially stable, it's hard to reconcile that with my need for down time, social time, volunteer time, etc.
My son not being able to be here anymore, and my having to be.
Tough question. I don't have an answer as I can not imagine being someone else. I am generally comfortable with who I am and realize the smallest tweaking of a personality/intelligence/etc. trait would likely produce a cascade of other characteristic changes with unforeseen consequences.
Myself. I have OCD and it does interfere with every day life. Having said that, I am learning to manage it and, with some luck and determination, I should be able to overcome it and move forward in life. It isn't debilitating, but it does slow things down considerably.